Is it normal i go on a date and know there's no attraction there?

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Recently, I've been on a string of hangouts / dates as I tried the whole online dating scene, and with most of the guys, I just didn't feel into them. Is it normal to feel sure about whether or not there's an attraction? Also, how do I politely turn a guy down when he wants to meet up again? I find it very hard to just say that I'm not interested, so I'll just make a few excuses while I wait for him to get the message, but if he ever asked me what I thought of him, I'd be honest and say there wasn't that attraction.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    normal. But be aware that in your attempt to be "polite" you can give off mixed/uncertain signals and they might think they need to be persistent or try harder. Just be straight forward and concise eg. "I don't know if you didn't either, but I felt there was no chemistry. It was nice meeting you though." etc Any guy with half a brain will greatly appreciate your honesty, respect you for it, not be offended, and let you be.

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    • NeofelisNebulosa
      8 years ago

      Amen!

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    I´m weird, or maybe Swedish culture is but I doubt many people around here would even go to a date with someone they didn´t feel a connection with.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    Don't leave the guy guessing. You should take a page from my book and be blunt with them. You can still be polite while being honest. If you string them along, you'll end up hurting their feelings!

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    • Arm0se
      8 years ago

      That's a tune I know all too well :/

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