Is it normal i get scared confronting my bf?

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I hate how this always happens with me and my bf. He upsets me a lot but I always found an excuse for him and didn't confront him about it. Now that I have had enough of him walking all over me, I do get the courage to stand up for myself and confront him. However, the few times I have, it has turned out into a mess. He gets so pissed and stubborn. If he says something, its his way. So I get afraid now to speak to him because he might just lose it and thats it, there's no way of turning it around. Its not like he has anger management problems like he yells and screams and goes crazy but he just gets REALLY stubborn. I get scared of what Im going to say because it might cause a bigger deal than it was supposed to be. It really sucks I can't confront him without him being understanding and not taking it to another level and being so stubborn about it. However, sometimes I stop giving a sh*t and plan out what I am going to say then as soon as I see him, that frustration disappears. I'm like wow I was pissed just a minute ago now I can't confront him the way I felt like it. Its not the same confronting someone when you don't feel that frustration anymore. So its just my love and feelings for him when he walks in, I'm like okay I'm not that mad anymore but I am?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    What's the point of being with someone you're scared of?

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    • Mersaphe
      9 years ago

      she likes being dominated isn't it obvious

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    That example makes me think he overreacts and is rather spoiled. Overall, this sounds like an unhealthy relationship, especially if you're considering a future with him.

    Stand up for yourself. If he becomes aggressive, frightening, and tries to turn the argument against you then you should know that he's not the right person for you.

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  • 69
    9 years ago

    i've become very practical after letting some people walk all over me, if it doesn't work like a healthy relationship should work, i'm out

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  • abihsot
    9 years ago

    Sounds like your phrasing your question, but people are allowed to be mad. People are not allowed to hit other people. Not sure what is happening but let the previous 2 sentences help you.

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  • seakelp
    9 years ago

    This sounds unhealthy. Talk to him about yo problems and then dump him if capitulation does not occur.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Give us an example.

    And you picked him. What do you want us to do about it?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Okay for example,
      He wanted to give me a surprise today. We planed today a week ago. I'm in the middle of of taking care of thing right now, however, I didn't know I was going to be stuck in a mess a week ago when we planned this. So I asked him what was the surprise and he wouldn't tell me. I get it because it was a surprise but I wanted to know what was going on so I can see if I could still go with it or continue taking care of my things. In the end, I went with it. He takes to this meeting/tour on suites for a baseball game. In the beginning, we sat down and it seemed like everything was about him taking care of business, I ask why am I here when I'm stressed right now? If would've known we were gong to this meeting I would not have gone. But he said it was a surprise so I expected it to be an event which it was. We were going to watch the game later that evening. But the meeting just threw me off. I had know idea what we were doing there and felt like I was wasting my time. I was like he can't keep taking me everywhere and not letting me know what we're doing like if I have nothing to do. So I confronted him and he got pissed and decided to cancel plans. I just wanted to confront him and then move on with the day but no. He got irritated and stubborn and there was no way of turning it around. It really sucks. I feel like I ruined the day but he did as well by not telling me even if it was a surprise because he knows I am in the middle of a lot of things so he could've considered if this was still a good idea. Even though I was frustrated, I was still willing to spend the day with him but him being stubborn it was NO from that point.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    Thats kinda normal, but you cant let him walk all over you. You need to stand up to it and say something so that it doesnt continue. If you say nothing because the frustration stopped for a bit, then its just gonna happen again and again.

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