Is it normal i get incredibly drained from spending time w people

i guess i'll start this by saying that i don't hate people and their company. it's just that when i hang out with someone, i need at least a week off in solitude before i hang out with anyone else. i feel like i could go years without company -- i have gone a year before without issue. and ik with covid shit nobody's really supposed to be hanging out but this is something i've felt for most of my life.

i hung out with this guy (social distanced and quarantined beforehand) and when he left that afternoon my other friend texted me asking when i'd be free. and i made up some excuse because those couple hours with my friend drained me long enough to last weeks.

it's like the idea of having to present myself a certain way, entertain someone, talk a lot and listen is just exhausting. i wish i could use italics on that. i'm so damn tired.

i don't really miss people either. and when i do get lonely i feel so guilty about it since it's my fault i keep saying no to get togethers.

i love living a simple life where i feed and provide water for the backyard birds, walk my dog, and just generally laze about online. it makes me happy and i genuinely can't understand people who feel like they're going crazy when they haven't talked to someone in a few days. i won't even notice a month has passed between the last time i even texted someone unless i'm reminded.

i know this is weird but is there anyone else like this? i've never met someone as antisocial (without disliking the people i'm spending time with) as myself.

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  • DeletThis

    That’s not antisocial it’s being an introvert.

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    • lnm

      yeah i mostly just use the term antisocial as well as introvert because if i don't get my days off i'll really dread being around anyone and it makes me much grumpier lol

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  • Schizotravestie

    I'm a bit like you. I like spending time with people as long as I can have completely alone time before and after. I like being able to spend at least 3 days without seeing anyone.

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    • lnm

      right! the only way i can enjoy people's company is if i've had a good few days surrounding it where i was alone

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  • RoseIsabella

    You sound like an über introvert.

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  • Pilum

    100% relatable

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  • lnm

    oh man, wishing you strength! that'd be draining as hell for me. i only recently moved out from my family and it's like a huge weight is off my shoulders

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  • bbrown95

    Yes, I used to be similar, and still am in a way, though I just need about a day to myself rather than a week. I don't like too much excitement, especially on a day-to-day basis. Christmas REALLY wore me out (plus there were a bunch of kids, which REALLY wear me out), and my family couldn't see why I wasn't bouncing around everywhere the day after. 🙄

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  • Inkmaster

    That's called being an introvert.

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