Is it normal i get attached to mother figures?

Ever since I can remember I have had this problem coming back in different forms, where I find myself completely attached to older women in my life, who I pretty much idolise. I really can't control it. Every time I let go of one of them, I get attached to a different woman, and I don't know why. I don't even feel this way around my own mother. My mother and I have a solid relationship, but we don't really click. I love her so much, but we don't talk much. I always get on well with these mother figures, and my general wellbeing rests upon the fact that they like me too. I find myself making decisions, and asking myself what they would do if they were in my situation.

I am aware of how weird this is, and I feel like maybe it's because I am self-conscious or unhappy with my own life or myself. I fill up all of my spare time with hobbies and events to try and make myself feel more happy with myself, but really, everything leads back to the person I idolise at the time whether this is a teacher, or a neighbour, or a friend, or even someone I don't know, like an actress!!

I just don't know why this happens to me, and I don't know how to stop it. Has anyone else felt this irrational need to have an idealized mother figure, and if they have, have they gotten over it somehow? Thanks in advance.

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  • Tealights

    Sounds like an attachment disorder, which are caused by the lack of something from childhood and or infancy. I suggest getting a therapist to help you understand yourself further, or do some research on your symptoms.

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  • Be_humane

    Forget them believe you will be a better person to be a idol for yourself than anybody you could relate to.have enormous amount of confidence.because not even one in a million people idolizes themselves.and always take responsibility for your actions if you do you will never consider about giving the helm of your ship to any older women even if you'll love to.beacause it's Titanic all over again

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  • RoseIsabella

    I had what I thought was a good and appropriate response all written out then my POS cell phone just ate it like it was nothing. Now I just need to pout,and feel sorry for myself.

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    • Jimbo24

      There there... it's alright. Why don't you make me some coffee it'll make you feel better?

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      • RoseIsabella

        Nope, but I will make myself a cup of tea.

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        • Jimbo24

          Now that's just cruel. 50% off your next week's allowance!

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          • RoseIsabella

            NEVER! You'll never get anything from me, and least of all servitude.

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            • Jimbo24

              Yeah, whatever...

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          • RoseIsabella

            Nope, you hold no authority over me, and never will. I don't really drink coffee so there's absolutely no reason for me to waste my time making coffee for anyone else. There's only one person in the whole universe for whom I would consider making coffee.

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            • Jimbo24

              Did you just give a point by point, literal, and logical answer to playful banter? You must be fun at parties.

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