Is it normal i feel rejected when a girl has an entire other world going on?

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I'm 22 and I have obviously met a lot of girls over the years. Some I have dated to a limited extent. But the majority that I have met that I am interested in always have such busy, adventurous lives.

As the girl and I get to know each other during some brief, informal dates, I find out how they are always texting their other friends (even when I am with them) and they are always talking about their friends and what they do outside of work which is great and all but to me most of them seem quite content without me in their lives as if they already have enough going on and I am not needed.

When I get to know girls, I want them to know what my life is like but I try to show them (if I like them) that they are important to me and that I have room for them in my life so to speak. I don't know if girls do it without thinking because they are nervous or just dumb but they always pile on all their friends and everything they do waaaaay too fast and when we talk about this stuff it simply makes me feel not needed. Does anyone understand this?

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    You seem to be attracted to certain girls because they are outgoing and you notice them. Then when you are with them, it turns out you would prefer a quieter type of girl. They are out there, but they are quieter and you just don't notice them. They may feel inadequate or boring if they don't have friends trying to text them, though. And if you are quiet and they are quiet, it will be more work to get to know them. You will have to be a talker.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    10 years ago

    'most of them seem quite content without me in their lives'. So what you are saying, no one can be content with their lives without a relationship? I am not in a relationship, and just like these girls, I find other ways to fulfill my life. BUT, probably like these girls, I wouldn't mind having a relationship if the right person came along. Yes, we can be busy, but if we truly liked someone we will definitely find the time to accommodate them in our lives.
    There is no need to feel rejected. You just haven't found the right girl yet.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    "I have obviously met a lot of girls over the years"

    No it's not i don't know you at all how could this be obvious to me?

    "But the majority that I have met that I am interested in always have such busy, adventurous lives."

    Naah mate they are full of shit they just wanna spend less time with you.

    "I find out how they are always texting their other friends (even when I am with them) and they are always talking about their friends and what they do outside of work which is great and all but to me most of them seem quite content without me in their lives as if they already have enough going on and I am not needed."

    They be sexting they want the D not the d.

    Sorry kid thems the brakes.

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