Is it normal i feel neglected?

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My boyfriend and I both agreed to quit smoking weed and we said that to help one another through it we would find hobbies we could do together. We spend practically 24/7 with each other and that's the way we like it, because we're best friends as well :D

However, instead of finding things to do together my boyfriend has gotten addicted to a game. I'm a gamer as well, so I don't really care when he wants to play games. But, he rarely has time for me unless he wants to get laid now. I can go to his house, but there isn't anything for me to do there. He plays in his living room where the internet is the best, and I hate TV so it isn't like I can watch it while he plays. I tried going over yesterday and I just sat there and watched him play. He still interacts with me normally, and he assures me his feelings haven't changed, he's just extremely addicted to this game now. It seems to me that he traded his weed habit for a gaming habit.

I feel pretty neglected now. I'm struggling with relapsing, because it's all I can think about. I feel lonely and unimportant and I have no one to spend time with (all of my friends still smoke pot, so it is incredibly hard to be around them). I want to tell him how I feel, but at the same time I don't want to be selfish, because I know that this is helping him conquer his addiction. Normally I would just join his gaming spree but I'm currently unemployed and have no money to buy a membership. Is it normal that I feel neglected? What should I do? Please don't tell me, "break up with his ass," because we're much too mature to end things over a matter such as this.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    I think any dialogue is good. If your boyfriend isn't aware of your situation help him understand. Otherwise you just need to move forward and maybe try to get a job, and look into some hobbies like you said you would. Maybe he'll come around then.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Haha, I'm not sitting around on my ass doing nothing all day. I am proactively trying to find a job. I have bills and whatnot and scraping by on EI is not my ideal. Thanks for the advice :)

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I don't get it. You aren't quitting heroin, alcohol, tobacco or coke here; you are not quitting an addictive drug. It is pot for crying out loud! And you need "to help one another through it"???? What an unadulterated load of horse shit.
    I really don't get it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I shall refer you to these links:
      http://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/research-reports/marijuana/marijuana-addictive
      http://www.drugabuse.gov/publications/drugfacts/marijuana
      http://www.healthline.com/health-news/marijuana-addiction-rare-but-real-072014
      http://healthycanadians.gc.ca/healthy-living-vie-saine/substance-abuse-toxicomanie/controlled-drugs-substances-controlees/marijuana/about-au-sujet-eng.php

      When you are young, you have an increased chance of becoming addicted. I started when I was 12, I am now 20. Although I don't classify my problem as addiction (as I have no withdrawal symptoms), it is a dependency. And yes, I do have a hard time quitting it. I have tried very many times and have not been able to do so. My dependency was not the center of this post, it was whether or not it was normal for me to feel neglected or if I was being selfish. If you don't believe that you can form a dependency on marijuana that is fine. But, try asking a group of teenage habitual pot smokers to quit and I bet they wouldn't last a week.

      Thank you for your comment, but I do not wish to further this discussion with you unless you actually have some advice for me.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I have been a pot head for over 40 years. You can take your government sponsored brainwashing links and shove them where the sun don't shine. Obviously they are a crutch you need to lean on.
        Call it dependency or addiction, it's all fucking bullshit; an excuse for weakness and spinelessness, just like a belief in gawd.
        Pot takes sugar from your blood stream, nothing else. Fast for a few days and you get the same results.
        I don't care if you started smoking when you were 2 or yesterday, pot is in no way physically addictive and if you need a support system to quit, then you have some other extremely serious problems in life that don't have fuck all to do with pot.
        My advice to you? Don't believe everything you read and gain what knowledge you can from experience.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          It's clear that you have your opinions and I have mine. Like I said, thank you for your comment, but if you're going to be condescending I have no time for you. Have a lovely day!

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    I just neglected reading your post because it is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long. So yes, it's normal.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Damn, I'm sorry, but personally I'd rather deal with weed than video games. I just wish it were legal everywhere. My second ex husband was addicted to video games and alcohol. He was probably addicted to weed too, but when I stopped smoking he just started drinking like a fish. I left him after three months.

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