Is it normal i feel like this is a mind fucked.

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Okay long story short, I started hanging out with my brothers friend a lot. He always comes over and that's where it begins. We became very close, and I can say that he's my best friend. Eventually we'd leave the house and do everything together, I mean everything. We developed a deep connection that I've never had with anyone before. However..every time we'd leave together, my mom would have some snide comment to make like, "what? Are you guys fucking now or something?" I didn't see this as abnormal because my mother has always been rude to me and I can even go as far as to say she highly dislikes me for reasons I could never figure out. (my best guess is because I'm my fathers daughter) I've grown use to it over the years, no big deal. Well me and my "friends" relationship went to the next level when we kissed one night. My mom finds out, and she takes me to the garage to have a private conversation. She tells me that they dated for 2 weeks in the past and that they have fooled around but not to the point of sex...and that I cannot see him or talk to him anymore. (I'm 21 btw, shes 36.)

Because my mother has always been such a bitch to me my entire life (and she has literally tried to ruin every relationship I've ever been in) I didn't feel much sympathy for her. Besides that it happened before I moved there, so it's not like he was sneaking around behind my back. Is it normal to still want a relationship with him?

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    11 years ago

    Your mom sounds kinda cray. Don't let her stand in your way if you really like this guy. Besides you're an adult, it's not like she can really tell you what to do.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Right, it just kind of seems morally wrong. I mean if I was actually close to my mom and she actually treated me like a respectful human being, I wouldn't even consider it. However, she's been horrible to me so I really just don't care and it's almost funny to me. It's like I can get back at her now too. :D

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    your mum is jel

    dont let her fuck your mind

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Does she at least use protection.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    Oh - and you asked 2 different IIN questions. IIN: 1) This is mind fucked (yes) -- 2) still want him (no). The high "yes" count is likely to the 1st title question - was for me.

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  • Mando
    11 years ago

    I wonder how much your mom being about 15 years old when you were born (i.e. you're 21 she's 36) has to do with this? You must have wondered how her being a child-mother affected your relationship.

    Not to excuse her behaviour towards you, but not an easy life for her. If she is harbouring bitterness, however, she really should get help. And if being so close in age as adults, she sees you more of a competitor/peer then that is another issue. And perhaps there are ways you behave that are less than accepting or appreciative of her status as your mother.

    So, do you really want a boyfriend who was romantically involved with her - and who makes the distinction between you as daughter and your mother as mother (not the other lover) murkier?

    And be very honest about what you've said: that your interest in him is because of the antagonism between you so in part is to get at her. This is all really unhealthy.

    You need to think about this and the little war between you two. Why create more hurt between you? And - as a PS - I don't see how anyone would want to date someone their parent had been going out with, coitus or not.

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