Is it normal i feel like i can't have a boyfriend because i don't want to sex?

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I'm in college and I've never liked a boy (or anyone, for that matter) before. If that's not enough to make me a freak, I don't want to have sex. Or do anything of the sort. Not never, but not soon either. I'm fine with that, but I feel like there's no guy in the world (much less a guy in college) who would be willing to put up with that. My last boyfriend dumped me because I didn't want to have sex--even though I told him that from the start. I don't know how I'd feel if I ACTUALLY cared about a guy, but I'm not holding my breath. Is it normal that I feel like I can't a boyfriend because of this?

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago

    I think this is okay simply because sex seems to automatically come into play with relationships but it truly doesn't have to. You said "anything of the sort" though so even mere physical contact on "those" areas is off limits? If that was so then I could certainly see a guy getting a little frustrated eventually. Same for me, I'm a nice guy and my last girlfriend didn't want to have sex until marriage and I was okay with that since I honestly don't want to become a dad just because I wanted to drop some pants, didn't mean I wanted to keep my hands to myself though. We talked about it and she was okay with that even though it never happened due to distance. Still, if a guy can't respect your desire for no sex then he isn't the guy for you, the good ones will respect your decision and I'm sure they are out there.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    Seems like you're asexual, or close to it. If you don't want a boyfriend, that's okay, they're not necessary. If you do want a boyfriend one day but are scared that they'll leave you because of not wanting to have sex, you should probably try dating other asexual or low-libido people.

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