Is it normal i dont know if i am asexxual or demisexuaal?

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I wanna find out if im asexual or demisexual. I find people attractive wouldnt date someone I didnt find physically attractive unless we had a very strong connection!

I think if I met someone and he never bothered to try to get sex I wouldnt care! We can make out and cuddle its enough for me but maybe I like sex if I try it sometime and I want to but I want us to have been a couple for maybe a year and then like "hey lets try it" and we can try it but I want partner that until then never bother me with asking for it ever! Does it means I need to find asexual partner ?!!? But I dont want partner who dont like to kiss and what if when we try I like it and he dont!!! So it means im demisexual ?! Pls help me so I can know how to search for partner. I guess Tinder is not good,I tried to fill my sexuality as "demisexual" and I got 1 message a guy saying "what does that mean?".....And almost no match until I removed it from my profile!
I feel I should have started earlier when we all were 13 or something and many people dated for a long time (if it lasted long)before sex but when I was 13 was social inept ugly and bullied I didnt get men until I was 18 ok so what !!!

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SkullsNRoses

3 years ago

Asexual only means that someone doesn’t experience sexual attraction, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they won’t want a romantic relationship with cuddling and kissing. The fact that you want a degree of physical affection doesn’t mean in itself that you aren’t asexual.

Unfortunately I can’t tell you whether you’re demisexual or not, the sexual attraction will come with emotional connection or it won’t. You will have to learn through experience.

I would recommend going on the website AVEN for more information and deleting your tinder while you’re at it, an app designed for horny people looking for hook ups isn’t going to do you any good regardless of whether you’re ace or demi.

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- LloydAsher
  
  3 years ago
  
  Never got the point of asexuality. I feel like those people must be missing a vital hormone or something.
  
  Sex is as important to a organism as eating and drinking. To be completly void of it is unnatural.
  
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  - SkullsNRoses
    
    3 years ago
    
    Sexualities don’t need to have a “point”. Being asexual makes no less sense and is no less “natural” than being gay.
    
    I remember you’ve asked about asexuality before and I think you should look at AVEN too, anything you can think of has likely been asked there.
    
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    - LloydAsher
      
      3 years ago
      
      They kinda do because that's how words work. Words mean things.
      
      Sexuality does have a point. Because in only one it causes a new person to be born.
      
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1WeirdGuy

3 years ago

Quit worrying about labels christ you ppl sound crazy

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  OKAY so instead I will date everyone and tell them later that I dont think I wanna hae sex with them its not important information
  
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  - 1WeirdGuy
    
    3 years ago
    
    Just describe yourself to them and be you. Its everyday now you hear a new label and everyonr is like "im soooo different listen to this new badass label. Im a geologicalsexual-organism and I have a hint of trans-pacific". Its getting stupid. The labels dont matter. Just be you. Next thing theyre gonna be saying "you are a geologicalsexualist-organistPHOBE!!! Because you dont accept that I identify as a turtle and you dont recognize the 36 forms of hentai sexuality!!!!"
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      Asexuality is not new dumbass. Its th term to describe people who dont wanna have sex thats all you should chill weirdo. Everyone know what it mean it easier then to say "no thanks I dont want to" everytime someone offer sex last times iv done this every guy has asked me anyway "so you are asexual?" and iv said I dont know but they wanted to know anyway!!
      
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  - LloydAsher
    
    3 years ago
    
    Gay, straight, bi
    
    Most common way to describe your sexual preferences. If you arent gay and arent straight you are defacto bi.
    
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Tommythecaty

3 years ago

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- LloydAsher
  
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  Straight, gay, bi
  
  I only accept the three categories. For asexuals (as odd as it is) I'll accept a N/A as an answer as well.
  
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    3 years ago
    
    Lol
    
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Pilum

3 years ago

Ugh...

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3 years ago

I don't know for sure. But my bet is that you'd fast eliminate any extra lingering doubt about your sexuality if you zoned your enquiry to an 'asexual vs demisexual' senario.

The act of misspelling words that add to the already complex and expanding sexuality spectrum isn't going to help you find a fitting, (let alone, correct) answer to your question in the near future.

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phonons

3 years ago

If you're attracted to other people you probably aren't asexual. It means we don't have sexual attraction towards anyone. We can still have sex and relationships if we like but no sexual attraction.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  3 years ago
  
  Its not true iv read about this before.I feel attraction but I dont want to sleep with thm it just mean I want to cuddle them and kiss them and I dont cuddle or kiss friends becuase I dont feel the attraction to them.Maybe 1 day it will mean I have sex so I wonder am I demisexual ?But I went out with 1 guy once for 2 years and I didnt wanna
  
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  - phonons
    
    3 years ago
    
    Romantic asexual?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      3 years ago
      
      Yes maybe
      
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