Is it normal i don't want to talk about sex or people i find attractive?

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I am a virgin, and generally speaking a prude. I don't like it when people start talking about it, I don't care about to hear about their relationships or whatever. I REALLY do not like it to the point it bothers me and has made me a complete social wreck where I didn't even want to talk to anyone in the past month. I don't like it when people even joke about it.

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dappled

11 years ago

Well, you have options. Whenever a conversation turns bawdy you could say, "I'm sorry, I'm not comfortable with this" or just leave.

Or, you could change society entirely so that everyone is more like you. I don't fancy your chances of success.

Or, you could look at yourself and see if there are any reasons why you feel differently than most. I do feel some sympathy for you but I also feel you might be repressing your own sexuality. Virgin or not, you still have a sexuality. Do you ever feel maybe ashamed of it, or frightened by it?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  1. Tried it....it still goes in that direction....I think the main problem is it just happens so often...
  
  2. I wish....
  
  3. I have...and really....it's a mix of reasons. I'm actually both ashamed and frightened, but not too ashamed or frightened. Also I would say that...sex in itself even kind of disgusts me. I don't really even have much of a sex drive in the first place, and am actually quite happy I don't think about it all the time. I don't/didn't have much of a sex drive in the first place. Not to mention I find it just annoying of how everyone seems to be OK with putting out their information on public display even if it isn't. I also really just generally don't find the discussion interesting as it seems to be typical gossip that everyone talks about. Maybe it's my aspergers and it's something that just genuintely doesn't interest me. Overall I would say I might 'lightly' repress it but not really enough to do any sort of possible psychological damages. The only possible psychological damages here would be the social issue. Which I can't seem to get over.
  
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Ugh69

11 years ago

You're an asshole!

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GoraIntoDesiGals

11 years ago

So you would find Kim Kardasian's fanny dirty? That's very weird.

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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

You're just immature...you can't talk about it in the natural way that humans do.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  I don't understand how it makes me immature.
  
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  - [Old Memory]
    
    11 years ago
    
    The fact that you don't even understand why that makes you immature shows exactly what i'm saying to be true.
    
    There are alot of things one can be "immature" in regards to, sexual conversation is a common one. It's not just someone who makes penis jokes all the time as people who are actually uncomfortable with conversations about it are equally immature in an undeveloped way. People who grow up realise there is nothing to be awkward or prudish about. You simply lack sexual development, but it's not your fault as everyone who is a virgin is sexually immature. Obvious though as someone who's never had sex isn't as experienced with anything surrounding "sex". The people talking about it aren't doing anything wrong as it's a normal adult function, but you are "to the point it bothers me and has made me a complete social wreck" meaning you are very immature towards something you should, as a fully developed adult, be comfortable with. Having sex is a big part of growing up after all.
    
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Charle44

11 years ago

There's nothing weird about it; just don't let it get under your skin so much.

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1776

11 years ago

You need to get laid.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  What makes you say that?
  
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Anime7

11 years ago

To an extent I'm kind of the same way. I mean if someone starts talking about sex, sure I'll join in but I'll feel a little bit uncomfortable. However, when I start the conversation then I don't mind. Thing is that I start it because of the people's reaction. Most of the people I hang out with at lunch are prudes, don't want to be mean but it's kind of true, so their reactions are usually funny. Granted that some of them, mainly the guys, do talk about sex but it's still interesting. Also, I notice that you said that there is no intellectual stimulation behind talking about sex, well when I discuss it I discuss WHY it happens and where it came from. What made man want sex? What makes women repress their urges? Stuff like that, sex is a plaything for me to talk about. Oh and by the way I'm a virgin.

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Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress

11 years ago

"I don't like it when people start talking about it, I don't care about to hear about their relationships or whatever. "

Are they specifically talking about it TO you or are you just overhearing it?

If they're talking TO you or talking about it at work (cos it would fall under sexual harassment), then you have a legitimate say in this.

But if you're just listening in, then you don't really have a right to dictate what they can and cannot discuss.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  It's in a group conversation so it is me, but not just me. No it's not at work (yet), though thanks for the information on that.
  
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  - Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    
    11 years ago
    
    In a group - then excuse yourself.
    
    Don't make a big deal out of the sex chat - just ignore the conversation or find a generic reason to leave (like a potty break).
    
    Eventually they might ask you why you won't talk sex. Just tell them "it makes me uncomfortable."
    
    Don't bash them for it, but when asked just say that... how you don't enjoy it.
    
    Most likely they'll get the hint and modify things if they want to include you. some might try to force you but if they're really your friends they'll back off and let you be
    
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anti-hero

11 years ago

Not even joking about it is a little extreme.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Kind of....it primarily bothers me because of how often it happens since it's so easy to make a joke out of it. Though it also depends on how 'dirty' the joke is.
  
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  - anti-hero
    
    11 years ago
    
    I can see not wanting to be graphic. I hate to be sexist but I am assuming you are female?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Actually I am not female
      
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      - anti-hero
        
        11 years ago
        
        Well hot damn I was wrong.
        
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