Is it normal i don't want to share anything anymore about my bf to my family?

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I'm starting to sense some tension and get frustrated about my family knowing too much about my bf and I. I have always kept my relationships away from the public but not so much from my family. However, now it's different because its not like my family and him dont like each other, in fact, they do and that's the problem. My parents especially my mom think they know him enough to assume things or problems we may have. No you don't know him so stop thinking like you know what is going on. My sister seems to really like him as a person to the point of inviting him everywhere she invites me. I'm like why didn't you invite my ex anywhere? Leave my bf alone lol. Part of it yes I blame myself because when we started dating, I couldnt stop blabbing about him since I was just so crazy about him. Especially that I dont tell anything to friends or anyone about what goes on between my bf and me, I told my family, mostly my mom. But now, Im done. Im not going to involve my family and my bf with each other any more and that includes not having him come with us anywhere only on super special occasions like my wedding, visit him more than he visits me, not talking or venting to them about is any more, and other things. My bf has always said that the best way to keep our relationship successful is to keep our business our business and no one elses. We share the same mindset but he does it better so I have to step it up. Is it normal to keep your family and your partner away from each other just for the sake of keeping your relationship healthy? It shouldn't be a huge concern for neither party. I'm sure though he wouldn't notice or care but my family would go like...hmmm.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I'm sorry but this story is idiotic. It's like complaining about finding a $5 on the street and saying it should be $10.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    This was very confusing to read. Did you say you wouldnt invite your boyfriend to yor wedding? I dont know if I am just too drunk to comprehend your post, but it didnt make much sense.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    I'm not sure what the problem is here. You are mad that your family gets along with your boyfriend? This is a good thing. Unless you are done with him and are using this as a way to sabatoge your relationship because you can't handle it. You say its about keeping your business your business, but what are you doing that isn't worthy of sharing?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yes its a good thing however, I clearly said that my family is starting to think they know everything and they judge us in addition to assume what's going on with us when they don't. So I don't want them to be so confident and think they know what's going on cause then they'll get in the way of my relationship without exactly knowing what's going on. It's better to keep them separated in my perspective now and I hve found out that others do the same as well so I don't feel bad about doing this as much anymore.

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  • Lariii
    8 years ago

    I agree with keeping issues between the two of you away away from your family, however I don't see why you dont want your family anywhere near your boyfriend, it sounds possibly a bit possessive / exclusive, as I always thought that a good relationship between bf and family is a good idea.

    However, if your boyfriengettibgng along with your family is a badbecausefkr your relationship then I guess it would be normal to keep them away.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I also thought that I might come off as possessive to my family because I don't want them to be so confident thinking they know everything about him and us. That's why I wanted to know if this is normal and if others do it so it's okay. But on here, it looks like its not but I have found out others do do this because it's just for the best for some relationships and that doesn't mean theres something wrong with our relationship.

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      • Lariii
        8 years ago

        I mean I can see the logic, if they're meddling then you'd want to separate them to keep your relationship happy. However, the situation doesn't seem normal.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I don't advise sharing anything about your partner that is personal or negative about him . It just never seemed like a good idea to me .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah I used to vent to my mom about all the bad things that would happen and it would make him look like not such a good person. But now that she has met him and gotten to know him, it just seems like she likes what she sees but cause she knows of the bad past, she thinks she can just assume what hes doing or thinking in a particular situation and that frustrates me. So I just want to keep it more private now.

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