Is it normal i don't understand women's fears?

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I don't understand the fears that women have about men and dating, it makes since when I think about it, but it's just the shit they've gone through, it's like hearing a foreign language sometimes because I just can't understand the men that treated them like that.

I'm nothing close to perfect but when I hear a friend tell me some of the things they've gone through or a girl I'm hitting on has reluctance and she tells me why it just kind of shocks me with the reasons I hear.

I've heard stories of guys getting violent when the girl turned down his offer for a date---I just say oh well, and move on
Girl's tell me about guys they broke up with who became stalkers afterwards--- I never even considered doing something like that.
Girl's tell me they've had guys ask them out just to turn around and make fun of them for thinking they were interested---I just kind of stared in shock when a friend told me that used to happen to her.

I used to think I was a dick because when I was on a date, I'd sometimes stare at the waitresses ass without realizing it but the shit I hear from friends and past dates, I have to pause for a second because I'm waiting for some kind of a punchline. The fears and concerns they have, It just doesn't register to me because half the shit they've been through I've never even thought about doing.

is it normal I don't understand the fears women have about men?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    In your case, ignorance is bliss. Just continue being yourself and date smart, because like men, women can be just as bad.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Oh yeah, right, just as many women rape men as the other way round WHAT BULLSHIT!

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      • TurtleBurger
        7 years ago

        He didn't even say anything about rape. Way to fly off the handle.

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      • AnimeNightLight
        7 years ago

        Stfu. No one said anything about rape, you crazy hag.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        Well... that escalated quickly.

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      • The_Creep_is_here
        7 years ago

        They rape the guy's bank accounts. Wake up!

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You say you can't understand women's fears of men, but you obviously do: it's the behaviour causing the fear that you don't relate to and that's because it seems you would never mistreat women in the way many men do.

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  • Holzman_67
    7 years ago

    yeah I know what you mean, hell, the things women have told me about other men I'm surprised they haven't all turned lesbian

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  • SeriousChipotlePirate
    7 years ago

    I've had similar situations and stories, yes some guys are just strait out DICKS, fucking assholes that would do such things because they feel superior or they're just plain stupid. A smart person would never take someones (love) trust for granted and would never pretend to date for a laugh! Its a HUGE social shame and some people just don't see that, they don't feel the pain they're giving. Yes "Ooh well, talk about it, and move on" is a good idea, this way you could understand maybe a little further on these guys, why they differ from you, and what you should watch out not to do.

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  • xfg25
    7 years ago

    I don't understand either, why they get creeped out when I stare at them.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      Might just because you're a very creepy creep

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      • xfg25
        7 years ago

        I like watching them from my car as I touch myself.

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      • The_Creep_is_here
        7 years ago

        My identity is externally defined. I don't think I am creepy, but all women say I am. And yet, none of them can explain it.

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  • Dreamsao
    7 years ago

    I date other women and I still have fears about dating them. Humans can be trash. Luckily, I'm happily taken.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    Count your blessings. There but for the grace of God go you(I).

    Just continue to be your awesome self, be grateful for the fact that you haven't had such bad things done to you, nor have you done bad things to others. If it's it's any consolation I can't relate to the victim of abuse who constantly takes back the abuser. I know I can't relate, because I've never been there. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss.

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