Is it normal i don't understand how my words are hurtful

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I always tried to think before I spoke, but it never worked, and it's gotten even worse. My brother is endlessly trying to set me up with a girl, but I just don't want to. We're not clicking, she seems so much older, I don't feel anything, and biggest of all, I'm not ready to date yet. Last night he commented in passing that "I feel like you would like her if you weren't such a huge dick to her" and I asked him to clarify, and he said it's because I mentioned that my crush was Japanese. He's said I mentioned it a lot, but I only remember mentioning it a little bit, because I was describing how I started my journey to become a polyglot. Also, I can't form words a lot of the time, and end up spouting gibberish and making gestures. People sometimes say that I'm being rude, but I literally cannot figure out why. Am I just a huge dick? Am I just insensitive? Am I just stupid? Please help me I can't understand and it's scaring me. Thanks.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Not everyone is a quick thinker, although they may later develop the skills necessary for that.

    Take your time. Develop naturally. You might try reading a good book on relationships. One of the all time bests is "How to Win Friends and Influence People in the Digital Age, which is a modern update on the 1939 edition of How to Win Friends and Influence People. One of the all time great success books (and the original is still published every year); but I recommend the modern one.

    Also, One story that you may relate too: In the 1850's a local school had decided that one young student; Thomas by name, was not suitable with limited intellegence and sent him home to his mother with a sealed note saying that Thomas was uneducatable.

    His mother opened the note in front of Thomas - read it silently - and then told Thomas that it said that the school was not good enough and did not have the quality of teachers that a boy of your skills and intelligence needed. So she, his mother, would educate him at home.

    Perhaps you have heard of Thomas Edison, father of thousands of inventions. The light bulb. Sound recording and playback. Many others.

    After his success as an inventor when his mother passed away he found the original note that the school sent home with him that day while sorting through her belongings. He recalled how his mother had told him that it read something completely different.

    Your likely a bright young lady - who just needs the right kind of education to blossom and prosper.

    I wish you well...

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Bruh thanks i needed this fam

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      • olderdude-xx
        3 years ago

        I need to correct my previous post. Turns out my story of Thomas Edison is not exactly correct - and it turns out the note part of it is an urban myth per snoops.com.

        It is true that Thomas was considered "Addled" by the teacher at his school; which in the 1850's meant mentally deficient ("retarded" was the term when I was growing up).

        The teacher told both Thomas and his mother that; so Thomas did know about this all along.

        His mother then pulled Thomas from school and taught him herself. The results speak for themselves as be became one of the greatest inventors of all time.

        That does not change how you may find the right person to assist you to becoming the Lady you are meant to be...

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Just be yourself, accidentally hurting people is just part of life. It happens, get over it

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