Is it normal i don't think i can get a gf because i've never had one before?

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I'm 25. I have a good job, my own car, place, family, I'm in good shape, etc. But I've never been in a relationship before. I think that's a huge turnoff, and if I told anyone they'd instantly think that there's something wrong with me and would run away.

But that also creates a cycle where I'm alone forever.

Or should I just lie about it to get by? But they would eventually figure it out, and I don't think I would be comfortable with having to constantly lie about pretend exes and having to tell all kinds of made up stories.

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  • Marisol
    11 years ago

    I would love to be with someone who was never in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with not being in one by now. Go for it man.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I don't think it would turn me off, not at all. I don't get why it's such a big deal, I mean you're still young. Although, I would try to get out of this cycle while you can. I do wonder, though, why haven't you had a relationship yet:S?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Well yeah, that's the elephant-in-the-room question that I don't really have an answer for. And any attempt to answer it is revealing some kind of deep personal flaw that's basically telling them that I'm not relationship material.

      :/

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      • Marisol
        11 years ago

        It all depends on what that flaw is. If you want a relationship you might as well tell them about the flaw. Or is the flaw the fact that you never were in a relationship?

        I feel the same way as I never was in a relationship. I have no idea how a relationship works. Either way, it makes me laugh when I think that people would reject others just because they were never in a relationship.

        You are a guy - you have the upper hand. Don't waste time, and once you do get a girlfriend be honest if she asks about past relationships. Honesty is great.

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  • AmosTheCracker
    9 years ago

    Well, if you have a hard time dating people, go date a stripper for a while. Its totally different, and good practice because they don't count.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    It's normal to be nervous and insecure about doing something you've never done before, but you should be honest about it.

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  • beyond_beautiful
    11 years ago

    Well in all honesty from my perspective, I would actually be attracted to u more knowing u have never been in a relationship! Regardless of what I or others may think; you are you, let no others opinion take u away from that. If u are ready for the dating scene then don't be ashamed of the fact u never been in a relationship. Take as much as u need and do what makes you feel comfortable!!

    <3

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    see, this is exactly why you have a good job, your own car and etc. Because noone was around to brainfuck you and waste your money on the new fucking drapes.

    Stay single, stay happy!

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  • MrDraper
    11 years ago

    I'm gonna give you the best advice I gave myself. Stop bullshitting and apply yourself.

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  • NotFloydzie
    11 years ago

    There's a first time for everything.

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