Is it normal i don't know if i should trust him?

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There are two views on my relationship at the moment and they're messing with me. Not sure if I should trust him or not.

1) A while ago, when we started getting more intimate and closer, I found out he was messaging a former fling from outside of the country. I confronted him and he said "I was only talking to her like that cause I knew I was never gonna see her again you know?!" No I don't know. He shouldn't be talking to anybody and if he felt like he had the right to then he should've just said so since we weren't official yet. I would've understood and knew that okay we can apparently talk to other people. But him lying means he did consider us serious where he knew he would get in trouble if he was talking to someone else. So basically, I felt cheated on. He was either using me or using her or both of us. Their messages were like "omg come back!" "I miss you...remember when..." and he said those were just for fun messing with her. Okay...that sucks for her. Either way, he looked like a scumbag and wasn't sure if I could trust him from then on.

2) More recently, we argued after questioning his feelings for me and he ended up getting very emotional. I thought I would never see him like that. We had some alcohol in our system but still conscious. So it probably pushed him a little to tear up but still, it was genuine. He felt bad and left for a while and I found him in the room with his head down like wow he's feeling pretty hurt and down. I feel like I hurt his feelings cause I'm always doubting him but can u blame me when he does things like the 1st example? Another girl came into the picture recently. I knew they were hanging out with his other friend and he was "snapchatting" her often since they were "best friends." Then she requested me out of no where like how do u know who I am? Just another nosy one.

Idk what to believe on top of other mixed signals. That time he teared up makes me believe he does care about me but then these instances get me suspicious.

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    I'm not saying that your guy is fake but I know a guy who cheats on his gf then cry like a baby when she finds out, begging pardon etc.. What gets on my nerve is that he usually cheats and that he usually cries. The biggest bastard I know. He lies a lot. How I know? Because he dates my bf's aunt and cheated on her with a close friend amongt others.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Damn sounds vicious but no my guy doesn't cry his eyes out. It was like two genuine tears. The reason why I believe those tears which messes w me more is cause he's super stiff and emotionless. I always wanted him to show some type of emotion but NEVER expected him to cry. Another difference between him n your bfs aunts guy is my guy doesn't beg for shit. He hates that shit and doesn't believe in putting himself in that position of chasing someone. He has too big of an ego for that, which is another thing i dislike of him. So that's also why I believed his tears.
      But that guy u mention sounds like a mess! He's probably fake like u said or maybe he really doesn't know what he wants.

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  • babara7246
    9 years ago

    From my own experience Run while you can, you are receiving warning messages. He will not change and the crying afterwards is just another way to suck you back in. Take time apart and try to make yourself happy. Everytime you forgive him or let it slide just fuels his desire to cheat. Find a good man that you can trust because a relationship without trust just sucks.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I don't think he cried on purpose to suck me back in. In fact, he was calling it off that night and said we should just end it. He was exhausted of all the doubting going on. But I know every time I forgive him, there's not gonna be any improvement. Hell say sorry but if he doesn't change then his apology didn't mean anything.
      But ya I just have to see how much I mean to him.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    You both sound pretty immature.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      We've been acting pretty immature lately and its annoying cause we know what gets us fighting are small, immature things yet we still let it get in the way. I am usually the problem solver cause I'm always the one compromising but I need to stop kissing his ass since he can't always get his way. So now that were both being stubborn, nothing is getting resolved. How can we get rid of these small things that get in the way without one of us being the doormat?

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Ask to view his facebook messages lol, you'll be able to tell if he's hiding something if he gets defensive. I would doubt him too just because of your first example.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Ya hell probably get defensive and say I'm insecure for not trusting him and one of those crazy gfs. Then I'll look bad. But I would just tell him why I don't trust him cause of the example. Hell prob deny he's been doing it again so who knows unless I go thru his phone. It sucks cause I'm not the type to go thru a guys phone but he gave me reasons by the way he's so shady. So I'm pretty torn between those examples

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