Is it normal i don't know how to initiate a friendship?

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I'm 21 and kind of find it difficult making new friends. I know some people I'm keen to hang out with but I'm not sure if they like me.. I also wonder why some people don't ask me to hang out with them despite getting along like fire! It gets me a bit sad when I see pics of them hanging out with their mates and they haven't invited or asked me to catch up. I don't want to initiate a friendship in case they pretend to like me and I get invested leading to potential hurt.

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Based on 17 votes (13 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Get in to a physical fight with them...Always turned in to a friendship the next day for me. ^_^

    However if that isn't your cup of tea then it depends on where you're trying to make new friends. Are you in college?

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    • toofgod
      8 years ago

      Yes I totally agree. Friends the next day .

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Baha sure

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  • Steve2.0
    8 years ago

    Why don't you just threaten to kill them if they don't accept you as a friend. That will work, or get you arrested.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    They make get along with you in conversation but be into different activities with their day to day life and enjoyment . It could a few different reasons and I wouldn't worry . I want you to be consistently on the journey of life , making new friends and extending yourself to others to develop new relationships and interests . It's lovely to share experiences and hobbies with others as well as conversation and companionship , just spark up conversations and see if that leads to hangouts ! also don't be afraid to ask others to do something you want to plan . If you don't speak up they might not know you are interested in being around . I am a man of many acquaintances but few friends , choose wisely my friend and enjoy :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks for this ☺ Great explanation and advice ! I'll definitely ask certain few if they want to hang outside of work, hopefully if they aren't fake then they'll either make it an obvious no or a yes lol Just makes life easier when people are straight up which you don't come across often.

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      • Aries
        8 years ago

        :) you are welcome , friend . Best of luck!

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  • sansastark
    8 years ago

    Its okay dude! I too had problems making new friends in school. But they turned out to be really friendly.
    But just remember-
    Quality > Quantity

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well I'm in the work force now lol and aww yea can be awkward ae

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  • LuxM4G
    8 years ago

    Are we talking about college? If so, try to relate with people that share similarities with you, don't pretend to be someone to fit in a group, be proud of your identity.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      No iv fin school and now I am trying to build friendships with some work mates

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