Is it normal i don't have any real friends?

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so well im 18 and I have a lovely boyfriend he loves me alot, but he has his own group of true loyal friends.
Im currently not in school because I cant afford it yet (having a hard time with money)

I used to have a best friend but she backstabbed me real bad.
since then i never had true friends... to hang out with.
the same day i got dumped by her my parents also devorced, i live with my mum who is rarely around.

when ever i do hang out with people they just come over only in the weekend to use my house to drink i guess. it really hurts im always a second choice. I only have one friend i can think of but its not like she thinks of me like that too :( we used to be great friends, until she kind of left me to the side for other people.

People tell me im a good time tho (: i always try to be friendly and listen to other peoples problems.
it just sucks everyone has their own group of friends and im alone.its not like people hate me, they like to chat with me and laugh, but they dont seem to be interested in being more than just a chat.(and i do call them to hang over, i do try.)

my bf is currently abroad and im not seeing him for another 4 months,he is my only true friend.
while hes gone i was planning to catch up with some old buddies but everyone seems to have their own lives.
sometimes i feel so lonely when my bf hangs out with his group of friends and i wished i had it too. when i do hang out sometimes im happy, but most of the time (especially now my bf is gone) i cry alot.

sorry for my bad english!

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    If you want to make friends then be social and put yourself in situations where you'll have to talk to people. As you said, "I always try to be friendly and listen to other peoples problems." This behavior sounds like that of a great friend. I honestly believe that you're a good person and the "friends" that use your house for drinks, well try talking to them. Go to places and strike up conversations with strangers. You sound like a great person and frankly I would love to have you as a friend.

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  • weirdppl
    12 years ago

    maybe everyone's just in their comfort zone and can't be bothered to include you as well? or you can try befriending people who don't already have their own group of friends?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I felt like this for many many years until I met up with my school friends from primary school a few months ago - from when we were 10yo. Suddenly, I was 'at home' with real people again :o) It was like we were never apart and we all still love each other dearly! Most people throughout my life have 'used' me and my good nature - then abused me when they were finished with me.

    Go back to your roots for true friends.

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  • OnThisEpisodeofLife
    12 years ago

    Dude I feel the same way @ I'm 19 and in school and only have my roommate as a friend and I know that won't last. I haven't had a true friend in a while that wasn't forced in my life or just a friend by default like family are always friends by default and people who go to your church. I cry a lot, too. I don't have a boy friend though. At least you have him. I like to be thankful for the people who are already in my life and love me like familym church family, my youtube friends and yeah well that's it. Even if I don't have a real friend I'm not all alone and for that I thank GOD. I know you'll won't be lonely always. This age that we are in is a very transitional year. So that means relationships made in transition won't even last anyway because everyone's destinations are different. Anyway I can be your friend.

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  • theaskerofquestions
    12 years ago

    try going to a stripclub; that's how i bought my friends.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    I can ask my best friend to drop everything, not ask questions and fuck up some people with me and he'll do it. Best friends have some perks.

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