Is it normal i don't have a licence?

I just finished school last year, and have not tried for my drivers licence yet. My mother keeps pressuring me to get one and I always tell her I will soon, but I don't.

I have severe anxiety as well as agrophobia, I rarely go outside and when I do I either stay in the car, or on extremely rare occasions do go outside, but this is when it's usually late at night or when there is hardly or no people around.

I feel like that if I did get a drivers licence I would be a danger when driving. I'm scared I'll worry more about people in other cars then the road, and kill someone. I also find it terrifying to be in control of something so large that could easily cause damage or cause death to others.

I don't want to run over someone and go to jail just because I was so nervous by the car beside me that I wasn't concentrating properly.

I've told my mother this, but she says lots of people have anxiety and I shouldn't use it as an excuse. I can't help it however, that's why it's a mental disorder. You can't tell a person with depression to cheer up just because "lots of people have it".

There are many people who are in wheelchairs, but I don't see anyone telling them to stop using it as an excuse to not stand and walk because "lots of people are in wheelchairs".

I know illnesses vary between people, and some may be capable of controlling it, but some have it so severe that it's difficult to control.

I remember a time I had an anxiety attack in a parking lot, I couldn't breathe and I was crying and shaking, and my mother told me to shut up and stop being a bitch. After we got back home I almost killed myself.

So is it normal I'm really scared to get a drivers licence because I might kill someone?

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73% Normal
Based on 26 votes (19 yes)
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  • gloryholeflasher

    I'm sorry for you that you have this crippling anxiety problem, and I thank you very much for my sake, and for the sake of all my loved ones out on the road, that you recognize your limitation and don't try to get a license just to please your Mother!
    Not everybody is cut out to be a driver, just like we don't all have the skills to be a pop singer, or a finish carpenter. To drive a car when you don't have the mindset and the innate skills or talents and mind to body coordination would be foolish and dangerous. I have a daughter who feels similar to you, so I understand where you're coming from.
    Hopefully you will be able to car pool or use public transit to get around. Many people, especially in the cities, go through their entire life without ever having a drivers license and they get along just fine.

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    • Thank you! I feel like if I did get a license, I would be able to drive the car properly as I do have normal coordination and skill, however I'd only be able to drive properly if I was the only one on the road. If there were cars driving beside/in front of me or if I was stopped at the lights with other cars, I feel like I'd freak out and may accidentally lose control of the car.

      I'm planning on either getting around by either car pool or bus/other transport, as it seems the most easiest. I just feel like people will make fun of me for not driving my own car :(

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  • thegypsysailor

    I couldn't read it all but I agree with gloryholeflasher. Thank you for having enough sense to realize that in your present condition, you indeed would probably be a danger to yourself and others on the road.
    A driver can not be subject to panic attacks. When the shit hits the fan, maintaining control over yourself and your vehicle is the only way you will avoid severe injury or death.
    Trust your instincts and tell mom it's unlikely you'll be her chauffeur anytime soon.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    i were without a license for a decently long ride last summer

    it were kinda funny when i thought bout it later

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  • Ellenna

    If you don't need one, why bother? It's not only the licence - buying and maintaining a car,insurance, registration - it all costs money.

    Stick to what you know is right for you. Your mother sounds insensitive and overbearing: can you move away from her?

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  • KingTermite

    tl;dr.

    Not normal to not get a license.

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    • Steve02

      You are a fucking idiot.

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      • KingTermite

        Another new account? You have certainly been a naughty boy.

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