Is it normal i don't feel she actually loved me?

I Am a 22 year old girl & I told my friend that I used to be close with, that I felt something that day on the beach when she said we had a connection & it was intense, kind of like romance she said! So I finally summoned up the courage after 5 long years from hiding this massive secret & told her. She said it was all real, that she did feel a connection & she does love me but its different. She also said "I can't give u my full attention, I can't give you a relationship". I was Brocken! Thing is, she says she loves me, but even if she genuinely loved me as a friend, I felt she never tried in the friendship! She lived 6hrs away with her low life druggy bf. She hardly ever text to ask how I am. In the end, I was the one doing most the texting and I was very hurt at that fact. This of course was all prior to me telling her as I told her we can't be friends anymore as I need time to "get over" her. I don't really understand her, she used to often tell me she loves me heaps, and that when we reconnected, she literally had tears in her eyes from my text ! :) we had long embracing hugs, she said she dreamt of me 2 weeks before I re-connected with her after not being friends for ages due to a fall out, and that was amazing! I felt like there was a lot of love between us even as friends, but when I'd go back home, I no longer could feel our connection because like a normal friend would do, she didn't reach out?

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  • RoseIsabella

    What does Brocken mean?

    It sounds like what she felt for you was just an ephemeral, fleeting Platonic sort of love. Furthermore this love for you she proclaimed would mostly likely be Philos, not Eros nor Agape.

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    • Ipooprainbows

      Hello? Can u say something?

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    • IMO it felt deeper than that.
      That day we had a connection, we were checking out our eye color (we were with a bunch of people). When our eyes met (I was sitting opposite her), we had a moment where it was like we paused and just starred into each others eyes. That was the most intense and best moment I've ever felt. It was beautiful! It felt deep and it felt like we saw each other in a different light u know? Probably sounds cheesy to u. After that, we were very close that day. I put my arm over her shoulder and I remember she held my hand. Later that night, I slept on the couch & she was on the ground with our other mate & she came and slept on the couch with me and cuddled me. I really think I started falling for her that day on wards. This was 5 yrs ago approx.

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    • Brocken as in brocken hearted! I'm not familiar with those terms...
      I am pretty sure I felt a romantic connection as I did find her attractive & I thought about her day in and day out for years! I always wanted to be around her :(
      Even if she loved me platonically , if that's what your saying?? She didn't do a very good job of showing it...
      I have internet friends whom I'm not even close to, that speak to me far more than she ever did. That's confusing to me considering she proclaimed she loves me heaps & we were physically close unlike my other mates. Don't u find her behavior some what odd given all of this ??

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