Is it normal i didn't make a vegan dish and my

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I am a chef, I make fish and meat dishes. My one cousin is a vegan. I invited her over with her three sisters to hang out to go around town to shop and then eat over if they wanted. They all took the offer.

We shopped, had fun and then I cooked a lovely chicken dish for my four cousins which they said was the best food they had in their life (made me smile). But my vegan cousin didn't want to eat it so I had made her a tossed salad with lettuce and 5 different vegetables chopped up.

She ate it but afterwards she told me she was annoyed that I didn't make her a vegan dish and that it was rude of me to only offer her a salad because she was "tired of salads". So I said I think it's selfish to expect me to make a completely different meal from everyone else just because of a choice that she and no one else made. I said that I made her a salad, that I am not a vegan so I don't have vegan dishes that I can think up and that I would of had to buy extra ingredients, that I would have to research how to make it/recipes and that I'd have the extra ingredients left over because I'd only have been cooking it for her and wouldn't know if it would even come out okay.

She got annoyed with me and said the meat has gone to my brain and lectured me about how cute baby animals are and how they don't deserve to die like that. I said look around, that's how nature is. If you don't see it, that's not my problem. It's the way of life and meat is delicious. So she stormed out and called a cab and hasn't talked to me since.

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago

    How rude. You invited someone over for a meal and then fed them scraps, basically. No thought went into it and you neglected their basic needs.

    I am not a chef but making veagin food is not hard. Soups are easy and you could have provided bread. Is rice too complicated?

    This realy annoys me. I have food allergies and it is hard to eat but most of my friends at least make an honest effort to provide me with food I can eat. Especially when they invite me over for a meal.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    I don't understand vegans at all and I try to keep an open mind to their lifestyle but it just never works well for me . I am respectful of their choice but I would never change mine for anyone . I probably would have made a vegan dish just to be nice but I also am not upset with you that you didn't . I think it's a lot of extra work for someone who isn't vegan or have experience making vegan dishes . I wouldn't know what to cook either so a nice salad is a good choice with a nice light and tasty dressing and fresh ingredients . I can see where she is coming from but I also think she was ungrateful and attention seeking since some people don't even get to eat yet she is complaining that she is tired of salads , well ........... if you are tired of them , why did you become vegan? I know people will disagree with this comment but I am trying to be fair and realistic even though I myself probably would have attempted a vegan dish for her .

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  • JD777
    8 years ago

    You said you guys shopped, so probably should have stopped at a grocery and asked her pick out the vegan ingredients she likes (could have been as simple as adding beans or nuts to the salad). And ask her to show you how to make the dish. So, you get her to help and you learn another dish.

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  • iEatZombies_
    8 years ago

    So, you're not willing to show hospitality to your guest in your home because you don't agree with her views..
    Good thing I wasn't invited.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Your arguement for meat is a little stale.

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    • ilovetoiletrolls
      8 years ago

      I disagree. I think it's meaty.

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      • Redcoats
        8 years ago

        Ever tried Wookie steak? It's a bit Chewie.

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  • shuggy-chan
    8 years ago

    Niether of u are in the right in How this was handled, but if you knew she was a vegan, regardless of her reasons for diet choice, it would had been a nice gesture to make a vegan option, and vegan dishes arent that hard to make for christ sake.

    Arent you a chef? Branch out a little, try new things. Isnt that half the fun of cooking. Trying new things and having people enjoy your food?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I hate veganism because there's not much to make and I refuse to make an entirely different meal for just one person. She is tired of pasta, I knew that because last time I was over her place, she said she stopped eating it. That leaves not much and vegan foods are 99% vegetables. Not much leeway there.

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      • charli.m
        8 years ago

        Lentil dahl. Vegan chili with beans or lentils. Rice paper rolls. Stir fry. Curry.

        There are many options. I thought of five in the space of ten seconds and I'm not began nor am I a chef.

        Cook one meal for everyone. It won't kill people to not have meat for a single fucking meal.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    If I were vegan (and I'm not) and I was invited for a meal by someone who knew I was vegan, I'd assume they'd cater to my dietary needs, otherwise why invite me?

    However, it sounds as if neither of you were respecting the other person's views and it all got a bit childish

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I made her a salad, I refuse to cook an entire different meal for one individual.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Maybe would've been better not to have invited her then, or suggested she bring her own vegan food? I don't see the point in inviting someone for a meal you know they're not going to want to eat.

        I can see both sides of this, I just think it would've been better if there'd been clearer communication on both sides.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    Good riddance.

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  • breathingtree
    8 years ago

    I eat meat. However, I have friends who are vegan and vegetarian. When they are guests in my home, cooking them a meal that accommodates their dietary choices (other than salad) is actually exceptionally uncomplicated... and I'm not a chef.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You did everything right IMO.
    The difference between you and I is that I wouldn't have even invited the vegan to dinner. I know that the vegan would say exactly what this thankless girl said to you. No thanks, I'll pass on all that drama.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks, I appreciate the response.

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  • idiamin
    8 years ago

    Fuck her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks! When she first became vegan, she mostly ate salad anyway. I don't know what else she can have and she's allergic to soy so not much else.

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  • Eloise_Sophia
    7 years ago

    mystery7, that is really offensive.There is no worse types of vegans and stuff and if we lay 'guilt trips' on 'everyone' then that is because you have no idea the horrible stuff that animals have to deal with. This isnt a form of eating disorder. It's us making a choice in our lives, and if you want to be shitty about it, shut your god dammed gob. Get a life.

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  • wistfulmaiden
    8 years ago

    This is why people loathe you, vegans...

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    She sounds like an entitled bitch.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    Though you could have made more effort, she sounds like the worst kind of vegan, the kind that always have to lay guilt trips on everyone about eating 'cute animals'.

    I know a few people who are raw vegan but it's very hard to even meet up with them because they don't like coffee, tea, alcohol or anything cooked.

    When I did invite one of them for lunch I went to a lot of time preparing a raw food meal but she didn't even touch it. I was offended so I never invited her again.

    In my experience some vegans are so screwed up about what to eat and what not to eat I actually think it's a form of eating disorder.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    There's a difference between being a vegan, and being a bitch. She's a bitch who thinks she's special. When I go to people's houses and they have a crucifix on their wall, or want to pray before eating I don't complain and tell then to knock it off because I don't believe what they do. She could have easily brought her own food. I wouldn't invite her to anything else.

    Oh ya, and next time she talks about not eating animals, ask her why other animals do it then tell her that humans are animals too.

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