Is it normal i didn't care that somebody died but my parents expect me to?

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My dad got pissed at me for not caring that somebody died. What the fuck, people die all the time. Am I supposed to ball my eyes out and slit my wrists in despair at the death of some RANDOM person? Not to mention I never saw it on the news. Not even sure how the fuck it came up in conversation anyways, as I just come down the stairs and there he is spewing this shit. Then he said, "What if YOU died?" to which I replied, "LAWL I woudn't know because I'd be dead!" Then he started swearing so I picked up the first Harry Potter book and began reading, then fell asleep. My mother was texting me and I forgot that she was my mother so I think I sent her some pessimistic troll-esque messages.

But really. Is there actually something WRONG with me for just not caring? I am sick and tired of saying, "ohh, sorry for that poor kid". I mean if my friend's aunt or uncle died I'd feel bad - because I have a connection with the person that I can feel personally - but sorry man, I refuse to feel for random people.

The texts I sent my mother by the way, I was just being real. I won't copy it here because it's a bit long, but one of the things I mentioned was, "Do you think if I die tomorrow anybody outside of my circle of friends and family will give a rat's ass? Of course not! There's over a billion people in the world - we are just a microscopic fraction."

That's one line that I wrote. She asked for it, she's the one who started texting me.

So, IIN, am I a heartless douche? Because I think I'm totally normal. I explained this to my doctor, and also that I don't have a sex drive, and she said she'd keep track of that. But I'm really a happy person, I have awesome friends whom I love and everything. Give me your thoughts, maybe? Thank you.

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  • GreatGollyPolly
    11 years ago

    Truthfully, I feel the same, so you're not an asshole/douche, or I must be too. I just don't have the capacity to be upset about someone I don't know. So yeah, you're normal.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    It depends on who died. When it's people I don't know, it usually only effects me when it's a child, or if the person had a really horrible death. Other than that, how is a person supposed to grieve over someone they didn't even know? If you don't have an attachment with someone, it's not likely that you'll feel anything when they disappear.

    Also, with the number of people who die, if you felt sad for all of them, you'd be constantly be depressed. I think it's very normal.

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    • ㅤㅤㅤ
      11 years ago

      The thing is the person lives in our town - but neither me nor anybody I know knows the kid. I didn't hear it on the news, either, they just randomly brought it up when I was about to go to the store.

      I think because I'm young and still have a lot of growing up to do I can't sympathize - but I need to learn that on my own, not by them trying to make me feel guilty.

      Thanks for your comment, I just hope I don't seem like too much of a dick.

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      • bananaface
        11 years ago

        I don't think you're a dick. Either that, or I'm one too.

        I find it hard to believe that people get very upset over something that they aren't connected to. I think sometimes people connect themselves to something, like a singer etc., which is why they get upset when they die.

        Although I don't get upset about a stranger's death, the more I think about their life, their family, wonder about stupid little things like what made them happy etc., I end up connected slightly. Then, and usually only then, I feel sad. The general idea that someone with a life and memories no longer has either of those scares me, but I get more upset about the thought of death, rather than the victims. We all die.

        And now I'm sad.

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  • anti-hero
    11 years ago

    I didn't read the whole story, was it Andy Griffith or Ernest Borgnine?

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    • ㅤㅤㅤ
      11 years ago

      Uh, no.

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      • anti-hero
        11 years ago

        That was a joke.

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        • ㅤㅤㅤ
          11 years ago

          I could tell but sadly I have no idea who either of those people are and did not laugh :?

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          • anti-hero
            11 years ago

            They were famous actors and they both died last week.

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  • Ozzy
    11 years ago

    Its normal, when my grandparents died i didnt feel sad or anything because i barly knew them but when my friend died it was different cause we were friends and that made me deppressed.

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    • ㅤㅤㅤ
      11 years ago

      Yeah, exactly, see?

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