Is it normal i consider lusting as cheating?

First of all we all list after women built a certain way. Example: Beyonce. Example: Jlo. That's a long way from cheating. Men are built this way and we can't help it. So you are being very naive and impractical here. We just lie to stupid women like you to keep the peace.

You are trying to be the thought police. Stop it now! No good will come of it!

Good luck with that.

SERIOUSLY... Thought crime? Lust is natural - as in a biological thing. Love, on the other hand, is something you have to put effort to have. SO, if you have love, then praise your partner and be thankful he is putting the effort for your love. DON'T condemn or persecute him for having the biological response to attractive women. IF he acts on his thoughts, then it's cheating, but just having thoughts isn't cheating. Anyone who puts guilt on someone for thought "crime" is very insecure, and intellectually dishonest.

Just keep in mind..It works both ways. You may see some guy and have those same thoughts. Just don't act on them, or be disrespectful to your guy.

I was dating a woman for awhile. We did well together, were a very good match, and I found her beautiful inside and out. However, if we went out and drank, forget it..She'd get all flirty with other guys right in front of me, let guys buy her drinks, and when I'd touch her or interjected, either shut me out or put a stop to it. One night, we were at a micro-brew pub, and she was telling the bouncer how much she "liked his ink". This continued, to the point I told her, quite seriously "Then let him pay OUR bill and get your home. I'm about to leave". Suddenly, attention was back on me from her.

YET..IF I even mentioned another woman's name, or met with a female from my business group, I got the third degree and hell from her. I always wanted to take her out somewhere, and chat up some hot young woman just to see what my flirty gf would do.

You seem a bit kooky, to say the least.

Lust is a feeling. We don't get to choose what we feel and for whom.

Ok, don't for a second think anybody is fooled that you have lusted for another man in your head, be it someone you've seen in real life or on television. You know you have, we know you have, don't treat others as fools. You don't live up to your own standard because nobody can.

It's normal to lust/think about another person sexually, we are jist wired like that, the only shame that comes of it is if you're inconsiderate about it and/or act on it.

No, it's not "sexual objectification", believe it or not but when most guys, unless you're a psychopath, thinks of a woman or man sexually they see them as *sexually attractive PEOPLE*
Yes, your partner has thought of other women sexually, just like you have with the men. If you consider that as, "cheating" then good luck on your current and future relationships you feel the need to sabotage.

Im sorry but i cant agree with you.
I see many beautiful women every day on tv, some that are certainly more attractive than my wife, and i have had sexual thoughts about them.
That does not mean i cheated.
Are you saying that if you look at a man with whatever you consider to b the perfect cock, you wouldn't also have sexual thoughts.????
Lie to us but dont bullshit yourself.

If your so concerned, just invest in polygraph machine that way you can just hook em up and see if they are cheating. Looking ain't shit your asking too much. Okay, except for if the problem is that his looking to hard and acting disrespectful about it and making it obvious then his being a rude pig. I had a girl like that and she was a cheater she always had to emphasize on all this I'm feeling like a hoe about this and that, woof woof, pant, drool. If that's the case leave him his gonns cheat most likely.

When I'm in love and lucky enough that it is returned, I normally don't pay attention to other women. But occasionally I may admire/feel drawn to someone else without the need to cheat. It's human nature to feel attracted to other people while in a relationship, being careful not to act on it.

This is something that is hard for us to fully understand as women, since we are wired differently than men, but men will always lust. Women don't always lust, we settle down with our man and we are usually just all set. Men however biologically will always lust they have this constant urge to spread their seed. Of course a good man knows better than to act, but even the best man will have those thoughts and they are harmless. I know it's hard to hear, I felt like you when I was younger but eventually learned. You will accept it eventually and it's going to be fine. You're not going to feel jealous anymore once you do.