Is it normal i cant deal with overly emotional behavior? how do i deal?

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This is someone I am trying to work things out with. They tend to get overly emotional about everything. They cant think things through and its frustrating. Than they get mad and start crying because they simply dont want to listen to what I am actually telling them.

I tell them hey if A does not work there is also B, and C, and D to look into. Im not sure why this is so complicated but this does not seem to get through to them. They tend to interpret it as indecisive when I simply am telling them "No we can do A and B or if we cant do A than B and C are back up.

I dont understand why this is so difficult. How do I deal with them in a way they can understand? I dont always care when people get super emotional over crap they shouldn't but they seem to be upset. How do I fix this? Its very frustrating.

Also before its said I cant stop communication with this person. I have to deal with them daily and its so hard trying to communicate anything to them without them just losing it. How do I fix this.

They cant handle more than one thing at a time and I just do not understand why that is so hard. They do this when we go out too. Like if we go to the malls to watch a movie and suggest "Hey were here and you said you wanted to check out the make up" they say "No no we cant do that. It was not on the list". As if one little extra thing while we are at the mall is going to suddenly destroy everything.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Speaking as someone who's struggled with severe anger and emotional issues, I can tell you, it really isn't as easy as you think to simply just calm down and think rationally. I've come a long way, and I've learned techniques to better deal with my anger and emotions, but its an everyday struggle. Try cut this person a break, and try to understand that even though you can easily handle everything, its just not that easy for them.

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Gonna need more details. Otherwise I'm just gonna advise u to have patience and try to listen carefully to what exactly she's trying to say, instead of the way she says it. For some people, some subjects are very hard for them to contain their emotions with. Like when my gf says "you aren't attracted to me anymore" cus I'm not in the mood at the moment. I get really angry and upset like BOOM. Lol few things really frustrate me like that. Tell her to take a deep breath too, chill out. And maybe it's something really upsetting to her that ur being insensitive to, or maybe she is overreacting like women tend to do. Idk.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Ignore them? Tell them that you won't be able to continue working with them if they can't get their emotions in check?

    Could it be something neurologically/diet related? I remember I used to be a crybaby, little whiny ass bitch until I got my ADD dealt with. Now I barely cry. I don't get upset when working with others.

    Or, could it be that this person is going though difficulties in other areas of their life? Lots of stress?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I hate these situations too. Some people are impossible to deal with.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    They sound like a person who needs a kind, patient, and understanding friend. Let them be who they are and don't try to fix them. Especially if they aren't asking for help.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    I think you both need to loosen up a little. It seems you have gotten yourself overly involved in this persons life. Offer advice, but let them make their own choices and encourage them to be more spontaneous.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Other way around actually.

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