Is it normal i can't stand loneliness.

Seriously. I hate it so much. I'm 23 and I'm a girl.

I always want to go out. To parties. Theatre. Dinner. Anywhere. I hate it when I've made plans for my evening and get ditched by a friend. It seems everytime I am alone I am being negative and weak...I just want to call someone and cry. Not sure why. I get bored easily...I guess I do not have any activity to do when I am alone. I also want to drink. Just like this, alone.

Anyways, seems everytime I am lonely (especially on week-end days), I get desesperate and start texting ANY of my friends who is willing to do something. I dont care which one texts back. Like I cant stand being with myself even if I dont think I have low esteem. I'm OK with myself, but I know loneliess is one of my biggest fear. Plus, when I get bored, all of a sudden I feel like no one cares about me anymore. I feel stucked. Normally I am the one proposing things to do with my friends...but it seems that it is always me asking to go out.

Anyone in this situation?

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  • Short4Words

    Yep. Maybe you need some hobbies?

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  • thegypsysailor

    I would recommend that you start doing things on your own and broaden your circle of people. Perhaps, when you are bored, you could go to the local homeless or animal shelter and volunteer. Helping others is very rewarding and good for self esteem.
    There is more to life than parties and clubs; get involved in your community and give your time and energy to worthwhile causes. I'll bet your whole life will change, for the better.

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  • MysticLane

    You've become too dependent on being around other people. You need to spend more time alone. Solitude is the best thing for everyone. Not saying you should be alone all the time, but if you are never alone, you never get to really think for yourself. You'll never truly discover yourself and You'll never be able to discover ideas that may be hiding in your brain waiting to come out. You need to become more independent and learn how to have control over your own life.

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  • Holzman67

    Everyone you interact with in life, from the most insignificant person (ie a cashier at the supermarket) look them in the eyes and smile when conversing with them.
    I'm a lonely person but by doing this I feel more of an affinity to people in my daily life and it actually erodes my loneliness.

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  • nanawhite

    Idleness can be excruciating. I'd suggest you to find some hobbies to keep your mind busy.

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  • Paradiddle

    It is okay to want to go out to places but it is very bad to be so dependent on others for a stable piece of mind. Friends are nice but you can't rely on them to make you happy because just like right now, what about when they aren't around? More than likely, you'll end up loosing contact with over half of your friends and only a few will be there for a lifetime, life just happens and people get busy.

    When you're alone and you start to think of yourself as weak, just think "NO! I'm not loving myself this way" and find something to do. Don't be judgmental and try out anime if you don't watch it, try learning an instrument, try getting into video games, test out your art skills, read some books or just the occasional shopping therapy. The best way to getting rid of loneliness is to NOT be lonely, entertain yourself!

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  • Syniister

    Go watch a tv show.

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  • Gunkmunky

    I have the is problem too. I get around it by making friends as often as I can. Sometimes I make them out of paper, balloons and cardboard. For more realistic friends, I use pillows and my own clothes, face masks can be bought cheaply at discount stores. You can have a party whenever you like and go home with the prettiest girl or guy. You'll be surprised what a frankfurt or pair of sox taped to one of your 'friends' can do!!!!

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  • Gamzeee

    You should get a pet. You should also go do things by yourself to go meet more people sot hat you have less of a chance of being lonely.

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  • NotStrangeBird

    Get a dog.

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  • I've got blood flowing to my chud. **unzips pants

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  • Phishy

    I don't have any friends... ):

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  • Terence_the_viking

    Maybe you should hug more people.

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    You sound like an extravert who doesn't have very many good friends (or friends with enough free time). It sucks that you have such a need for social interaction and you can't find anyone to fill that need.

    Therefore, I suggest you join the military. I have been here in training for almost 3 months now and the only bit of alone time I have gotten is when I am actually in a stall, using the john. This is fucking madness.

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  • ReservedCitizen

    It's not normal. You came here alone, you will die alone no matter what. If you are dependent on others, you are a needy person, which is not good. Enjoy the benefits of solitude.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    You know the song that says "Doesn't mean I'm lonely when I'm alone" by Kelly Clarkson? I can't stand it because it makes me feel sad because I usually get lonely when I'm alone. Well, it was worse before. I think you just need to find something you like. Like, I found these series I liked watching and so when I was alone, I would watch it. I just keep myself busy when I'm home alone, even If I do try to go out everyday, even if it's with the same friends for more than two days in a row.

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  • Anime7

    I feel the same. I'm lonely though, and honestly I've just learn to live with it. I have hope that someday I'll meet someone though. I have great friends and I know that I'm loved, but with school and work it's hard to make the time. The best thing I do is just realize that I still have people in this world who care about me and that really helps. OP I'm sure that you have people like that, just be aware of that next time you feel lonely.

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