Is it normal i can't reach orgasm - i stop right before it!

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I'm 25, quite sexually active, in a steady relationship and without any traumas, crazy religion issues or anything like that. I have a great time in bed with my bf and alone with a nice lub.

Still, I can't reach orgasm for a very particular reason. Here I am, having a great time with my clit, feeling nice waves of pleasure, my feet get all cold and ticklish, my legs feel these little contractions and... I just can't go on! I have to stop or I won't... I don't know. It feels like it's going to hurt, or starts to get unpleasant if I insist. It is just impossible to go on and all my body doesn't want to. I mean, an orgasm should be something you're craving for, right? Should be something that you just ask for more, and to get there! But both with my bf or at home I just seem to want to stop and pretend to him I had orgasm because this is too damn weird to me.

Am I normal? Has anyone been there, and overcome it? Geez, I'm 25!

P.S.: I've tried a vibrator, yes.

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    I dunno that this post is gonna help you much, cos I have no answers. But at least I can tell you that you're not the only person. I do similar though, I have never had an orgasm, I get close but then either it's too much and I back off, or I get bored (bizarre as that sounds...) and stop. It annoys me. I think most of it is I'm scared of letting go. I like to be in control of myself at all times.

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    • desqueiroux
      11 years ago

      Thank you, that's exactly as you say, and it's at least comforting to feel I'm not alone... I'm sorry for both of us! Maybe it's a controlling issue, idk. But is there a chance there's just something wrong with my body? I mean, is it anatomically possible I'm unable to reach orgasm?

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      • charli.m
        11 years ago

        I don't know that it would be anything physical, from your description. I'm fairly certain it isn't for me. I think it's a mental/emotional thing.

        I don't think I mind all that much. Everything feels good enough, it's not like I don't enjoy stuff as I am, so I guess I'm happy. Though I do wonder what I'm missing out on.

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  • VioletTrees
    11 years ago

    Did the vibrator you tried have more than one intensity setting? It might help if you turn it down to a lower setting when you're about to orgasm, since it sounds like you get really sensitive.

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