Is it normal i can't move on from him?

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I had my heart broken back in Jan by my first love and it hit me really badly. But i just can't seem to move on with my life. It probably doesn't help that he keeps messaging me saying all this stuff about how much he misses me. I find it so hard not to reply and to just ignore them but i always end up getting really really upset either way. I feel like i still miss and love him even though he really hurt me and i don't think i could trust him again. Its just the thought of never seeing or speaking to him again that kills me. Ive tried cutting him out but its too hard. Is this normal for a first time love or am i just being pathetic? Im trying to move on with a long distance relationship with a guy that really likes me and i think i like him to, its hard enough with the distance but with me still getting so upset over the ex its even harder and its really not fair on the new guy. I can tell hes probably getting really frustrated too about me still crying over the ex. Has anyone been in this situation before, or cn give me any advice, i really don't no what to do x

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  • Idontpulloutmycouchdoes
    12 years ago

    You just have to realize that he obviously is selfish and didnt care about how you felt because if he really did care about you as much as you do him, he wouldnt have done what he did.

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    While I'm not quite exactly in your situation, I too cannot move on from the one I love, and she just called me last night to tell me she might get into a serious relationship with another guy (ouch). The best advice I can off is to try as hard as you can to distract yourself, do anything that takes your mind off of him. I even went as far as saying my phone was broken so I could have a few days. The thought of losing somebody is incredibly hard, but I believe you have to do what's best for you. Good luck, I hope everything works out the best for you.

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    • SammyX
      12 years ago

      Yeh i too have said my phone has broke a couple of times when i havent replied to him. Its incredibly hard, i just feel very pathetic and stupid over it all x

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      • stonecutters93
        12 years ago

        I know exactly how you feel. I feel like I have no control over my situation and I hate it. I long to have the days back where I just lived my life without any worries at all. I do hope it works out for the best for you.

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        • SammyX
          12 years ago

          Thank you. Hope it works out for you too x

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  • Idontpulloutmycouchdoes
    12 years ago

    As hard as it may sound, the best thing to do is ignore his calls/texts. If you cannot trust him, theres no way its going to work out. The only thing i can say is time heals all wounds and dont be afraid of change. Theres plentt of guys out there that would die to treat you the way you should be. Even though you probably felt comfortable with him when you were, that doesnt mean it was right. If you know in the back of your head that itll never work again between you two, it wont and you need to reassure yourself that and that youre doing the right thing. And do this guy a favor and dont commit to him unless youre completely over your ex bc my ex wasnt over hers when we started dating and it ruined our relationship months down the road. Be strong n ignore him if u know its whats best for you. How old are u if u dont mind me asking?

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    • SammyX
      12 years ago

      Thank you for your comment. I'm 26. I just find it so horrible to ignore his txs, feel really mean, coz he might be telling the truth, but then again i just want to be happy again n move on from this really really bad year x

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      • Idontpulloutmycouchdoes
        12 years ago

        i know what u mean about feeling bad but ive learned it really is the best way. You could be nice about it and just be like sorry, but please stop calling/texting me its not helping or something along those lines but i guarantee he'll just try n say something to get u to continue talking to him n make u feel worse. What did he do? If you dont believe what hes saying and hes doing shady shit hes most likely lying.

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        • SammyX
          12 years ago

          The first few months were great and was very happy then by like the forth month it was like he changed. Never asked me to stay the night, sometimes didnt tx back for days and saying his phone broke, but never thought of contacting me through email or facebook to let me know. We lived about an hour apart so only saw each other one night a week, and he would come to my town and we would just end up having sex and then he would say he was too skint or too tired to do anything else so he went home after about 2 hours. Was constantly asking if we were ok n he just kept saying i was stupid n that everything was fine. Last time i saw him was just after xmas n we went shopping. That same week on the friday he just completely ignored all my txs calls everything for about a month! I was so ill and just guessed ild done something wrong n that it was over. After about a month he got back in touch saying he was having a rough time at home n work. I just think theres something not right about that, u dont ignore your gf for a whole month and brake her heart. Could of just sai he wanted a bit of space x

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