Is it normal i can't form friendships with women?

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I'm a woman and I haven't really ever enjoyed female companionship. Growing up I always hung out with girls, but I felt much more connected to my guy friends even though I hung out with them much less. When I meet new women I am always pleasant and talkative, but I can never envision myself hanging out with them. However, when I meet men I instantly get this spark and connection. We can talk for hours and I would hang out with them in a heartbeat. I don't know what puts me off about women. I honestly thought it was because I was a bitch and had a guard up, but even when I try to be more open about gaining female friends it does nothing for me. I'm not saying that women are bad people, but I just wish I knew what it is that repels me. I have met some women that I did bond with and they gave me the same fulfilled feeling as I did when I hung out with men. But, overall when I go on a girls night I leave feeling unfulfilled and somewhat unhappy. I am not a fan of a lot of the behaviour the women my age display. Like, if we're at a bar and I get up to go to the washroom I do not need 2 others to get up and come with me. I see no point in calling each other "girl", "girly", or "bbg" and gossip bores me. Maybe I just haven't met the right girls to bond with? Is this normal? :/

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  • disthing
    9 years ago

    I'm the same except I'm a guy and struggle to form strong, long-lasting friendships with other guys.

    It's odd.

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    • Spankz
      9 years ago

      Well, it's good to know that I'm not alone even if we are opposite genders :)

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      • disthing
        9 years ago

        It is reassuring to know you're in a similar boat.

        My two closest friends are also my ex-girlfriends unfortunately.

        I have one or two male 'friends' who I'd probably describe as occasional acquaintances, but I couldn't rely on them for support and really don't feel like we have a strong bond.

        Even at my latest place of work, the two people I know best, who are both close to my age, who I go to lunch with regularly, are girls.

        Ah well, fingers crossed it's just a case of wrong place, wrong time, wrong people, and we'll both find decent, fun and compatible friends who are of our respective genders eventually :|

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        • Spankz
          9 years ago

          Well, I think that as long as my guy friends fulfill what I need then I won't have much use for female friends. I can talk to them about anything and they accept me. I think my biggest stipulation with the women around here is how judgmental they are. In high school I was always judged for my choices. While my friends gossiped mindlessly about who was having sex, who was dating who, I pined for a more intellectual conversation and for some reason guys were always able to give that to me.

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  • Eric118
    9 years ago

    I had this problem for years...

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    • Eric118
      9 years ago

      I wanna fuck them right away!

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    All women are enemies until something makes them friends. All men are friends until something makes them enemies. Fact.

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    • Spankz
      9 years ago

      Enemies? I definitely would not say that I am an enemy of women. I don't sit there thinking negatively about a woman when I see one. I just can't form emotional attachments to them. I would love to have female friends, but I just don't get the same emotional fulfillment with them as I do with men.

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