Is it normal i can't find like-minded friends?

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I feel like it’s impossible to find friends who like to discuss ideas and events in a calm and tolerant manner, exploring all avenues of the subject with equal consideration. It’s impossible to have a rational discussion with anyone without them trying to cram their sanctimonious beliefs down my throat. They think they’ve ‘won’ because I stop participating in their competitive bullying and duck out of the debate. Only I feel like there’s no point in having a conversation with someone who is overly emotional and rigid in their opinions. Grrrrr! Why are they unable to have a dialogue without turning everything into an intolerant,and [often] hostile, debate? Where do all the rational people live because I think I’d like to move there?

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  • pantsoffdanceoff
    9 years ago

    I would love to know where it is they are also. It would be wonderful to say the least.

    If you haven't already, I might suggest you give the MBTI a looking at, more specifically the forums &/or blogs- personalitycafe is a popular one. Maybe look amongst the 'NTP types. I hope that may be of some help.

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  • AppleMind
    9 years ago

    I'd rather talk to an overly passionate individual than a nihilistic one. I can't stand people without opinions.

    Not that that information helps you any . . .

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    You seem a little angry and combative yourself. What topics are tou trying to debate?

    I live in an area where people tend to be educated and well read. It isn't hard to strike up a conversation with someone at the coffee shop and have it be a pleasant debate. Hell, it's even happened on the bus.

    Maybe hang out near a university. Although college kids often think they know everything, but at least you have a good chance at finding a semi educated person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I'm discouraged and it undoubtedly came through in my rant.

      There are too many subjects to list and the bulk of them aren't provocative, if that's what your shooting at. I've become weary of discussing anything lately. It could be my personality that's the hitch. When I approach a conversation I do it with friendly transparency which could be conveyed as weakness, and that may bait the imperious to be overbearing when asserting their opinions.

      You are fortunate to live in an area where people are educated. I don't and that's more than likely half of the problem.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    I dont know what you think like, what yourr interests are, or where you live by, so I cant possibly say where you might beale to find like-minded people.

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  • mountain-man82
    9 years ago

    They are actually all over the place. You just need to find them. You might be trying to converse about highly debatable issues as well. Not everyone will have the same opinion as you will.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I would like to find them. But I don't know where to look. Do you have any suggestions? I'm aware not everyone will have the same opinion as me and I welcome a different perspective, there's always something to be learned from it. What bothers me is when... hmmm, I think I've already explained it in my post, I don't need to repeat myself.

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