Is it normal i can’t make my boyfriend cum?

It could be all in his head. No less a real problem if it is, of course. Sometimes, performance anxiety can be a real issue for guys. If I guy loses his erection once during sex, it can be very difficult for him to not worry about that happening again, and that makes it more likely it will. Obvious how that can turn into a vicious circle.

You don't say anything about what exactly you're doing, but it can be difficult for guys to reach orgasm if the stimulation goes on for a long time. It feels great, and you want to keep doing it, but then suddenly it's just way, way too much, and it becomes excruciating. At which point, it becomes impossible to reach orgasm.

The feeling of needing to urinate might be how he's interpreting that feeling. Oddly enough, I understand it's not unusual for women to have problems learning how to reach orgasm because they interpret the feeling of an impending orgasm with needing to pee, so they stop, try to pee, and find there's little or nothing in their bladder. Then they have to start out again from a less-aroused state, and the same thing might happen again.

Maybe you could ask him to urinate before you have sex so he's sure there's nothing in his bladder? Then, if he experiences that need-to-pee feeling, he'll know it can't be that. If he pushes through, he might discover something interesting happens.

Another important factor with guys is that if he's regularly masturbating (which, as a guy, he almost certainly is), then it can be difficult to reach orgasm when having sex with a woman.

Two factors are involved here:

First, his masturbation technique may involve very rough stimulation (prone masturbation humping against the bed, is particularly bad, as is "the grip of death"). If he has trained himself to come using rough stimulation, there's probably no way you're going to make him come by oral or vaginal (particularly if he has a condom on). You might even have problems making him come manually, because you'll be afraid of hurting him. If this is his problem, it's probably not permanent, but he needs to drastically alter his self-pleasuring technique and learn how to come using more gentle stimulation.

The other issue with masturbation is that it's easier for a guy to come the longer it's been since he last did. If he's jerking off six times a day, and you arrive after wank #6, he's going to have problems getting off.

If he says he needs a pee, go into the bathroom with him and let him pee on your clit. Watersports is hot as hell!

What is your weight &height?

Sounds like performance anxiety, or maybe he is gay.

Question is, is he making you cum? I always like to think of the sex being about me and my orgasms, and I expect him to consider that as the main priority as well. If he brings me to orgasm at least once (preferably 3 or 4 times) when we have sex, then all is well in the world. If by chance he gets to cum as well, then he needs to think of that as a bonus. I like it that way as it suits me best.

If you and your boyfriend adopt that attitude you could both benifit. You because you hopefully get to have several great orgasms, and him because his orgasm is only a bonus, therefore there is no psycological pressure on him to cum. The other added bonus here is once he has got everything working right, you continue with the same expectations of putting you and your orgasms first. That way when you have sex you keep control, you have as many orgasms as you want, and he only has one if YOU want, and of course from time to time you may decide you don't want him to.

It could just be nerves, finishing too quick can be embarrassing for some guys. So I've been told.