Is it normal i came in my pants over my therapist

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I've only ever ejaculated in my pants once before without any touching years ago in a class over my teacher who I had a mad crush on. I put that down to the fact she gave me an erection from the second I sat down and being a horny teenager.
I e seen a therapist recently for the first time in my life, she's incredibly sexy and I've started to have a strong sexual attraction to her.
I started to get a raging erection during each session and I know once as the session ended I couldn't make myself soft and had to stand up with a visible bulge obvious to see which she did. She didn't say anything but looked a bit surprised, I felt myself going bright red as we both pretended not to notice. I've not been so attracted to anyone like this for years and I have even been having wet dreams over her, more than I've had before over anyone.
A couple of sessions ago I could feel myself begin to throb as I became erect, I'd started to make myself cum before our sessions to try and make my arousel less and not get so turned on.
Despite this I felt myself throbbing and twitching and then I felt some drops of precum oozing out, that was it I knew I was going to spurt and I was only looking at her, no touching or stimulating. I did a little moan when I spunked up then bent over as I made an obvious dark stain in y trousers.
I said nothing and stood up and walked to the bathroom but there was a very apparent semen stain spreading over my front. I've never felt so embarrassed and she looked shocked and bemused but didn't say a word. I came back having tried to clean myself up but it was the most awkward atmosphere.
I'd only ever had the one spontaneous ejaculation previously and never thought it'd happen again as an adult.
I felt mortified and now I'm scared and anxious if it might happen again?
I worry that she was embarrassed too. Not having spoken to anyone about this I'm not sure if it's something anyone else has experienced?

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    You need to find a new therapist.

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  • Boojum
    5 years ago

    It's common. I think it was Carl Jung who dubbed the phenomenon "erotic transference".

    If your therapist is competent, she will be well aware of what's going on, and she shouldn't be shocked by what happened, although your reaction is probably more extreme than most.

    If you want to understand the phenomenon, Google. There's loads of info out there.

    As for what you should do about it, I'd suggest that the next time you see your therapist, you should tell her that you want to talk about transference because you find it very embarrassing, awkward to deal with and confusing. If your description of events is accurate, she should immediately know what you mean and she should deal with it professionally and in objective, non-sexually arousing terms.

    If she's competent, she should be mainly concerned about whether its likely to get in the way of the work you're doing, and thus means that you'd be better seeing another therapist. The whole point of therapy is to help you work out problems. This is a problem, so it would be pretty stupid to pay for her time and avoid talking about something that troubles you greatly.

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    • Marco77
      5 years ago

      Thanks for your reply,I've looked up a few google searches and it seems to be a far more common thing than I expected.
      I do feel that my feelings are a little more than just transference thought, I expect a lot of people do but I've never felt so intensely aroused by anyone like this before.

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      • Boojum
        5 years ago

        It's entirely possible that your therapist just happens to push all sorts of buttons for you, and the dynamic of what's going on between you makes it all incredibly intense.

        One positive thing is that I note you don't seem to believe that the feelings are reciprocated. Believing that one's therapist is just as attracted to you as you are to them isn't uncommon either, and things can get extremely complicated when it happens.

        I think it's also good that you have enough insight to suspect that while you believe it's more than just transference, it could be that.

        As I said, I really think you need to talk to her about this, no matter how uncomfortable that makes you feel. You're not spending time with her to get your rocks off in a very embarrassing way; you're there to try to sort out some sort of problem you're having.

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