Is it normal i broke up with him over moving away

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My boyfriend of 9 months is moving to another continent. We have known he was leaving for a little while but he was not sure of the dates and now that everything is confirmed I felt that its best to end the relationship now a month before he leaves. I think it is for the best as it creates that clean break and personally for me continuing the relationship is too much to bear because I love him so much. I can't look at look at him without dying inside and thinking about his departure. I will never see him again. I think it's best I let him go now because the end is the same either way though it's killing me to walk away. IIN?

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  • joolia03
    7 years ago

    Wow I think I needed to hear this, coming from the other side. I think you're doing the right thing if you know you are incapable of having a long distance relationship. But I wanna ask you did you really love him? because my bf kind of did the same with me. He broke up with me cause he couldn't deal with the distance anymore and people keep saying he just didn't love me enough but hearing you did love your bf and still broke up with him makes me feel a little better. I'm just mad at the distance so I think you did the right thing, it's normal.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Thank you. I needed to hear that.

      An LDR is impossible since he's moving away for good. I really did love him with every bone in my body.. I still do but now that he is definitely leaving in a month I can't carry on and be there with him with this sinking feeling in my chest. I won't be able to enjoy the last few weeks it'll just be heartbreak. He gets to leave and start a new life, I on the other hand will be left empty with all the familiar shit to deal with.

      I'm sorry your boyfriend broke up with you but I suppose it was a good thing in the long run as LDRs are draining on both parties as they prolong the inevitable break up unless you really really work hard to keep it alive and it's rare. As for what people are saying to you, only you know what your relationship was like and if he loved you through his actions and such when you were together. Every situation in a relationship is very unique and there's no umbrella reason. I sincerely hope you're healing, it hurts when we lose the ones we love.

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      • Thatuglyfatboy
        7 years ago

        Woa. Never coming back? That's tough. I didn't think it was normal, but now I do. I'm sorry that you had to go through that. Wasn't there any way that you could go to him or that he could stay?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          Yup never coming back and there is no way I could go there, no funds... and he can't stay because he claims the economy is so bad here,he is thinking of his future... career wise. Fair enough. I guess.

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      • joolia03
        7 years ago

        I guess in conclusion it depends on the type of person you are. I don't know if your bf tried to convince you to stay but I know I tried everything to make my ex stay. But he believed it was for the best or at least for now. It seems like you and my ex are the same types of people where you have the courage to let go of someone you loved unlike me, I'm just the type to not let go and keep trying. So it depends on the person. This makes me feel a lot better especially after doubting him for so long. He kept saying he does wanna be with me but I wasn't buying it since he wanted to end it and it would frustrate him to see I didn't believe his feelings for me. We're just opposites I guess.

        And yes thanks, you too! I know sometimes people can be closed minded and I should just stick to what I truly believe in so in this case, I don't think he left me cause he didn't love me enough. Same way you let go of your bf.

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  • fuckingfool
    7 years ago

    Where is he moving to? It shouldn't be a problem if the love between you both is strong enough. Why would you hurt yourself so much?

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Lots of women are too weak to leave a relationship without lining up the next guy to leap to. Good that you're better than that.

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