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I'm 27f and bi and eve since I accepted I am into women I automatically become nervous around women I suspect like me or women I find cute or even women whom arent my type but I find nice. So basically anxiety has become more generalized ugh. I didnt hope for that but oh well...is this normal?
This is new territory for you. Don't worry about it so much, just meet people without worrying about any sort of potential relationship. Just hang out with people and get to know them, and things happen automatically.
Congratulations on coming out. I think this is a normal part of accepting your feelings. Naturally I’m sure it will pass with time, but to speed it along I’d try to find other bi women (maybe in a Facebook group or on Reddit) and ask them how they got through this phase.
I forget the author, but "there is no genius without a touch of madness"
It's also a strong opinion in psychology that pain over time is cognitive development, actualization, growth. Abraham Maslow worked with a lot of people deemed actualized, and I believe it's either Carl Jung or Friedrich Nietzsche who made the discernment that those who are cognitively developed share the characteristic of having gone through trauma, providing an example of artists who created the most exquisite pieces.
I have worked with my mind a lot and I have come to the conclusion that overcoming difficult things helps me mentally develop. Things can grow out of hand if left unnoticed too long, like deep rooted weeds that persistently grow back.
I've gotten comments like I think I have superpowers or I've wasted effort on things, but I'm starting to feel and prove I can do anything. I have this sense of being ready I can bring out. I look at a lot of things as tests to myself, to my subconscious, to other people paying attention.
I want to keep going and improving. There are so many things I want to do and accomplish that I'm gonna have to be smart and savvy to succeed in. I don't want life to pass by, I want something I'm proud of.
It starts with understanding yourself with meditation
Quiet meditation, where you try not think. Let the first few thoughts, or distractions, go until you can sit still without thinking for some time
It's hard to describe, I guess, but you should start to have feelings that help you understand what your fears are. If you're meditating for like 15, 30, or 60 minutes that's a good time.
After you get started on that you just pursue overcoming your fears in whatever steps you need to take. They'll be small victories that build up and culminate.
Throw yourself in the mix with girls all the time. If youre always around them youll get used to it.
Totally normal, it will pass and then you can get into having some fun for yourself!
Go for da hoes with da lil titties. They always feel worth less. That way you got some dominance. Except if you also got them lil titties. In which case you start yoself an itty bitty titty committee and become da CEO of it.