Is it normal i am really bad with emotional people?

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I tend to piss people off just because I never have any physical reaction. I also express myself very differently. I will say thank-you or I love you maybe through gifts, favors, acts of service, being helpful. I dont really say what I am feeling and sometimes I really cant, so I usually say whats going on instead.

There is some people who are extremely emotional and my calm demeanor infuriates them to the point I fear they might attempt to hurt me. I am able to calm myself in these situations but not the other person. Can any of you help me? I fail to understand how to deal with these issues and these type of people.

Im not an openly emotional person and I tend to be so closed off I cant really express myself that well. When I try to emotionally say what I am feeling a lot of times my brain stops me. This makes things very difficult me especially when I have to deal with extremely emotional people all the time.

I would not care if this was not basically killing them and putting me in danger. Please help me.. I dont know what to do anymore. I keep trying to look stuff online but I dont know if any of this stuff worked and I generally do most of it. I try to fake being caring but somehow people always figure out that I am bullshitting every single time. I cant fake it and I cant feel more than I currently do. How should I deal with this issue? Thankyou anyone from is it normal who awnsers this question, it will be much appreciated.

Also I do try explaining this too people but they still get mad I am not the way they believe I should be.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Fuck em don't change who you are for other people if they don't understand that is their problem not yours.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Well its kind of my issue when I have to deal with them on regular bases.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Do you work in the psych ward?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          No why? I would be scarred to work in there. I have a phobia of doctors, needles, hospitals and asylums. I probably would not mind working with mentally ill people I usually am very sympathetic to them.

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    • theseeker
      9 years ago

      That's horrible advice. If you're pissing a lot of people off obviously there's something you need to change.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        9 years ago

        Emotional much?

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      I agree. OP shouldn't have to change anything.
      To OP, just be yourself.
      People are going to act emotionally unstable in this world full of insanity and it is important to have people who are logical and rational. If somebody's feelings are hurt, that is something they need to work on and it would be manipulative of them to tell you how to act to suit their needs.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Perhaps you have a neurological or mental disorder that prevents you from getting overly emotional or feeling empathy for that matter?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I think it is more an adaption and was reinforced by other events so I never stopped.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Hmm... interesting.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I'm pretty much the same even though I feel strong emotions. I don't usually like showing my emotions and I feel weird around emotional people. People wonder why I don't smile much. I can't because I feel awkward doing it unless someone says something funny. Although, I have become more comfortable telling people how I really feel. I think males tend to be less emotional than females because we're taught to control our emotions, suck it up, and take it like a man. So if you're a dude, you're normal.

    Anyhow, it all depends on what you really feel and how bad you want to change. If you really do care and mean what you say you will learn how to express yourself better. You have to start trying to express yourself more though. At times you're going to feel outta your comfort zone doing that, but the more you do it the more comfortable you will eventually become. I'm afraid no one or no thing is gonna hold the answer to your question. You have to find that within yourself. If you really don't like this about yourself you gotta start working on changing it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      But I dont know how to react, I process data and react accordingly to blend in. I feel very little need to respond physically but that upsets people. I just do what people tell me I am suppose to be doing.

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      • theseeker
        9 years ago

        Know that there's a HUGE difference between pretending to care & caring, but having trouble expressing yourself. If you're pretending to care then I don't think you have the ability to react because those aren't REAL emotions that you feel. If that's the case, you're trying to do something you probably shouldn't. However, it's still important to learn how to express yourself when you need to. I could see how some people might think you are being impolite or disrespectful if you don't. Something like telling someone thank you is a sign of respect. It might not mean much to some people, but to others it means a lot.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Well I dont express myself the same but no matter how much you explain this to people it will infuriate them. I also know people who said "Fine I accepted this" but go into a blind furry over the same stuff they said they accepted. So I have to at least pretend to behave the way they enjoy to get them to leave me alone.

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