Is it normal i am bored with my relationship

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It seems like me and my boyfriend do the same thing all the time and im sick of it. we are in a long distance relationship and i see him every weekend. he lives 33 miles away from me. I always go over his place and we watch a movie and cuddle. sex is the only fun thing we do together. other then that im just so bored and we have nothing in common but we have interesting conversations every now and then. I want to break up with him because im so bored with the relationship and i dont want to end up cheating on him or anything because i am a loyal person. Is this normal that i am bored of my relationship?

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Based on 66 votes (53 yes)
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  • amyxox23
    11 years ago

    Find more activities to do together. Do outdoor activities when the weather is nice! Long walks/hikes,sports,fishing...Do you both enjoy sports? go out to a game, a concert... I know how you feel. I used to get bored with my relationship, especially in the winter months. But we're apart so often now that it's fun to be together no matter what we do!

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    I think that in every relationship there are times when one feel bored. But if you think that nothing can change then do what you feel is best for you.

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  • Karmasbitch
    10 years ago

    Have things changed since? did you end up ending your boring relationship? I'm nosy and curious.

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  • capitalist-pig
    11 years ago

    Long time ago by the way

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  • capitalist-pig
    11 years ago

    From a males perspective, he's not that into you. It's the perfect situation. Your far away...and your a guaranteed lay. A good way to test this out is to force him to either go out with you to a place where his best buddies hang out -or- plan something where it's the two of you on consecutive days outside of the times you usually hang out a few weeks in a row. If he's not into you then he'll find an excuse not to do those things each time. At least this would make me squirm when I was leading women on for sex.... Long t

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  • Roxyg
    11 years ago

    well, YOU both need to have fun and find other things to do than have sex. Don't use sex to escape from boredom. Plan something out do something together, you guys need to re kindle your relationship! dont give up

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  • midgy
    11 years ago

    Make palns before you go over to his crib... Buy movie tickets, theme parks, Bway show! Sometimes you gotta make the first move!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I just feel like all he does is ask me what i want to do. and i just wish he would plan things. It seems like he just likes to cuddle and have sex

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      • plum6
        11 years ago

        assuming that you two spend quite some time chatting and talking over the phone when you are apart, I think it's normal that when you are together the sex is a main part of your activities. I bet that after you have not seen your bf for a while you feel the need for physical contact too, right?

        You should realize that your BF probably doesn't even consider this a problem, since us guys are even more focussed on sex. Even if you would tell him that you want to do something else when meeting up he will probably have difficulties to arrange this since it would be very forced and planned-out, which is something that is not a problem in a short-distace relationship because shared experiences just naturally occur.

        If I were you I would not jump to conclusions and end it. First discuss it with him and maybe try to spend more time around him so that you get the opportunity to share more together and involve outside influences in the relationship.

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Why don't you two go out to eat? Go to the park or a lake/beach? Can you two go play sports together? Can you two invite friends and have a bbq? Have you two tried this on any weekend? Can you two take a trip somewhere? I feel there are many options to make it not so boring but have you two tried any of these?

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  • yesdancin
    11 years ago

    its completely normal to get bored, once you get over the "honeymoon stage" everything seems bland. if physical fun is the only time youre not bored then i say move on! tell him you just dont feel the spark anymore, and most likely if you arent then neither is he.

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  • EAT_IT
    11 years ago

    Eat more exciting food together or find someone else who enjoys more exciting food.

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    • ccjigsaw
      11 years ago

      Or watch an exciting movie!

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago

    You need to make to move to spice up the relationship in mor ways then one! Good luck with your choices!

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  • Darkoil
    11 years ago

    It takes two to tango.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I'm always bored.

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