Is it normal i always get so shy and nervous

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Ive only slept with one guy who was my ex and because he was my first he had to take the lead every time as i had no experience. Ive always been really really shy and have low self confidence which doesn't help me in these situations.
I am now starting to get involved with a new guy. I stayed over at his house at the weekend but i Just got so nervous and so shy that i just felt like a let down.
We slept together but he basically did all the work where i just layed there so shy. I just get so nervous and don't know what to do, im afraid to touch him or move. He said he was fine about it and knows im really shy and get nervous about it. But he really wants me to go on top next time but the thought of it just terrifies me. I've never done it before and he knows this.
The thought of me on top and him looking up at me really scares me and makes me so self conscious. He said there is no reason for me to be embaressed about it all, but thats what i will feel like if i do it. Has anyone got any advice for me. I just don't want to be so shy and pathetic everytime i sleep with him. I want to enjoy it but the thought of embaressment takes over x

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  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    get some drinks in ya.

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  • Pepper
    12 years ago

    I love this site. I love it that someone can ask about being shy when intimate, and we exhalted scholars come up with "alcohol + reverse cowgirl!" :)

    For the record, I also think you need a few drinks to help the situation.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Don't feel pressured to have sex with him. Do it when YOU really want to. Anyway, he can roll you over on top of him, but you can't lie there like a dead fish so it sounds like you are not ready for sex with anyone.

    I hope you're not some child on this website!!!

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    • SammyX
      12 years ago

      No not some child lol im 26 x

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Well, when you're really comfortable with someone, it won't feel that way. Hint hint.

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  • Austalien
    12 years ago

    I was (teen) years but you'll grow out of that shit

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  • ThatCameronGuy
    12 years ago

    This actually sounds really cute of you (: I find it fun trying to get a shy girl to open up to me (: (legs and personality) (;

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    • SammyX
      12 years ago

      Why is it cute? lol x

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  • Dozis
    12 years ago

    You should not be worring this much,your inexperience might actually be more of a turn on to him.So,just do whatever you feel like doing,look at him from time to time just check whether he is liking it or not,and if he does,just think about pleasuring yourself,taking it easy of course,so you can get used to it.Just stop thinking about what he might be thinking of you! He is the only one who knows! If you really feel like knowing just ask him,like:am I doing this right?
    how are you feeling? actually,he should be the one kind of instructing you.Encouraging you and all,Maybe you are not the problem at all.He should be the one loosing you up.
    Like:how are you feeling down there? You are doing great.
    Just relax.Breath.yeah like that.Then I would sort of start with the psychological mumble jumbo.. Like.. Well,I can't give my lil secret techniques up to just about anybody.
    I will just give you an example,can you feel the tip of my cock rubbig against your swelling clit? And blabla.. You'd turn into a ninpho overnight.:-)

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  • crimson_mamba
    12 years ago

    Ok ok ok. Two things you pointed out: Low confidence. I want you to wear something YOU feel sexy in (when you look good you feel good) and stand in front of a mirror and move SENSUALLY. Look at yourself. Talk to yourself. Get your confidence going.

    Another thing, little experience. Well, how do you expect to learn practice makes perfect lol and you have to learn to explore your sexuality. Do you actually enjoy sex?

    One last advice dont be forced to do anything until you are ready, but all im saying is open up and try to explore your sexual experience a little more and see if it works for you sex should be enjoyable not pressured

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  • Oli
    12 years ago

    Wear a shirt so you wont feel like "everyone is hanging there". You can also tilt your head back so he can't really see your face if you're self conscious about your face. Or do it reverse on top.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Seems like you should take things slow, like try giving him a handjob, just baby steps until you have to full on touch him.Try looking the sexiest you can, that way it'll increase your self confidence. Really he sounds like a good guy so I think you have nothing to worry about.

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