Is it normal i act like this around women?

I have a lot of female friends who I like to take out places. Often I will introduce a new female friend to my friend group and some of my friends have talked to me about how they really don't like how I act when I am with a girl. I will give some examples.

A lot of my friends are rowdy and seem to make some people uncomfortable. When they act the least bit rude towards my lady friends I get very aggressive. They also don't like that I seem to ignore them and focus on the girl.

Whenever I take a girl out it is always my goal to make sure she has a good time and is comfortable and sometimes that will involve what some people say is acting like a dickhead. I'm not the least bit controlling or possessive but am very protective of others.

I think this seems pretty normal but I am often told I over react or am being pussy whipped when I just don't like people being rude to a girl I am hanging out with.

I see other guys act like douche bags to women and it seems like that is the norm these days and I am judged for acting how I do. It doesn't make much sense to me.

EDIT:
Something I should add to this topic that may be important is that I tend to hang out with crazy girls but I'm a pretty weird guy so I associate with like minded people.
A part of this issue is that I will support a girls crazy behavior. For example last night I brought a girl to the bar and she was flipping out and even threatening to kill people. Meanwhile I was laughing and going along with it and getting aggressive with anyone who talked back to her so I basically enable these girls to act as crazy as they want and nobody ever does shit but complain to me that I stick up for this type of behavior.