Is it normal i’m a woman but if i were born male i wouldn’t want to transition

Before I begin please note that I support trans people and by saying I wouldn’t feel the same as them I am not implying that their feelings or experiences are invalid.

So I’m a woman and despite never being über feminine I’ve always been ok with that. I don’t feel a burning desire to be male, I don’t look in the mirror and long for stubble and a masculine jaw.

However I’ve recently been watching a lot of trans youtubers, some of them women who were born male and begun to think that if I were born male I would have just been ok with it. I don’t think I would have cried when my parents dressed me as a boy or called me a boy name.

I feel like although I don’t mind being a woman I’m not particularly attached to my “female identity” and if I were male I would feel similarly indifferent to my “male identity”. I wouldn’t feel better as a man but I also wouldn’t crave smooth cheeks and a feminine jaw.

I honestly feel like I could have been socially conditioned to be either gender. I dont think I would have felt a need to transition and would just have gone along with it and been a slightly feminine man instead of a slightly masculine woman.

Does anyone here feel the same? If you had been born the opposite sex how do you think you would feel?

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  • Aethylfritha

    Idk. I guess im lucky ive always " felt" like a girl as ling as i can rememver. Not all females are super feminine and thats ok.
    I think the media overplayes a lot of issues and that doesnt help.
    I have a friend who is trans but he has a lot of issues still.

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  • Tempestshadow17

    Most people would be the same only. I was born with my gender assigned at birth was male but to me I was always female. A condition known medically as Gender Dysphoria but I say 90% of people would be happy with their gender assigned at birth

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    • Mammal-lover

      Gender dysphoria is a bitch. People will never understand fully unless they grow through it themselves. Much like depression or breakups. You know it sucks but till your faced with it you truly didn't know to what degree. Part of me wishes people could experince it for a week. Maybe then there wouldnt be so much hate towards us

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  • Meowypowers

    I have metaphorical bigger balls than most men I know

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  • litelander8

    I really wouldn't care if I was the opposite sex.

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    • Thanks for the feedback. My general conclusion from this post is that I am normal.

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    • Honestly, don’t think my day to day life would change much at all

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  • charli.m

    My guess would be you feel that way because you're not trans? Kinda obvious if you think about it...

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    • I see your point if you’re just talking about the fact I don’t crave a male body and don’t think I’d be particularly attached to my “male identity”.

      However I don’t think it necessarily follows that if someone is born female and are not FTM trans they wouldn’t be MTF if born male. Unless you can elaborate?

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      • charli.m

        I think you're over complicating it.

        I don't know many trans people personally, and I've never discussed it with them so maybe I'm wrong, but it seems to me that those of us who feel right in the gender we were born as can't understand the feeling of being "other", so we can't imagine it applied to ourselves even if we were in other circumstances (ie born the opposite gender).

        Idk if that's clear, honestly I don't care. If it is, great. If it's not, Idk another way to word it right now and I'm almost certain I won't be putting more thought into it. Sorry. Maybe someone else can help.

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        • Ok, not understanding the feeling of “being other” makes sense.

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