Is it normal i’d rather jerk off than have sex w/ someone i don’t have feelings for?

92% Normal
14 Comments

First off, I’m not a virgin or anything I have had sex with multiple women, some I had feelings for and some I didn’t. I very much enjoy sex with someone I care for, I think it goes beyond the physical. But to me having sex with someone just for the sake of having sex isn’t really that important nor enjoyable. Tbh I’d rather save the effort and just take care of it myself. Sometimes I feel weird in this way because it seems like guys are supposed to be trying to have sex with as many women as possible, but I don’t really want to nor care about that. Not sure if this matters but I’m uncircumcised, which means I have a foreskin. I looked it up and the inside of my foreskin is a mucous membrane, similar to what lines the inside of a girl’s vagina so physically it feels very similar if not the same as a vagina when I jerk myself off. If I have no emotional ties to the woman I’m having sex with, there’s not much difference to me between that sensation and the sensation of jerking myself off. As a matter of fact, I know myself better than a random person does. However, if I like someone and have sex with them frequently it’s much better than jerking off because they get to know my preferences and I enjoy feeling up the female body, plus the added stimulation of things not easily explained that go beyond the physical realm. If it’s just a one-night stand, I’d be perfectly content just giving her a butt massage or sucking on her tits, but sex with random people just isn’t that important to me. I tried having sex with random people for awhile because it’s what guys are “supposed to do” and I thought I’d feel better/like more of a man afterwards but it didn’t make me feel any better or like more of a man at all. I guess this is nice because I don’t preoccupy myself with random sex anymore, but is any of this normal?

Voting Results
92% Normal
Based on 13 votes (12 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 )
  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Good for you, man.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    3
    3
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thank you :)

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Carlton03
    6 years ago

    And yes it’s all
    Normal, inlcudng the trying to sleep
    Around I guess, although I generally
    don’t condone that shit.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Carlton03
    6 years ago

    Hi, I feel what you are saying, I also don’t rate or care about going around having random sex with women, I agree with you in the fact that it’s not anything important at all, I’m exactly the same, I don’t feel
    It’s important, I also find interesting and understand what you are saying how it’s enjoyable for you and it goes beyond the physical, that makes perfect sense to me, also don’t worry about what bullshit society expects from certain people, guys should be trying to sleep around heaps etc etc, at the end of the day we are all individuals and should do as we please and are under no obligation to partake in certain ways of life or tasks that we don’t want to or are not comfortable with, that’s good to know that it doesn’t feel that different if you don’t have emotional attachment to the girl, sleeping around isn’t important to me either and I don’t feel it’s necessary at all for anyone to partake in, it wouldn’t make you feel like more of a man or satisfy you cause you are not wired like that, similar to me, i doubt if I did that that it would make feel good or be enjoyable to me too, it’s definitely good that you are not Pre occupied with random sex, it’s a gratuitous task and those who aren’t pre occupied with such things are at a way higher chance to do greater with their lives and have a brighter future in my opinion as their attention is on what’s actually important, what you think bro?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Well said, I agree with everything you said and thank you for the reply! :)

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • Carlton03
        6 years ago

        Haha thanks very much buddy, nice of you :-), what country you from?

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          USA

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • Carlton03
            6 years ago

            Are you on instagram by any chance?

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
          • Carlton03
            6 years ago

            Thought so and cool.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            0
            0
  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Unequivocally normal.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • TerriAngel
    6 years ago

    Your mind and maybe a vid are surely better than just doing the act because a body is there.
    Ive been in that situation.
    its no fun.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Nickvey
    6 years ago

    if i could have sex with anyone on earth and i mean anyone , id just rub one out. women are just pain in the ass, and i havent tried men.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • [Old Memory]
      6 years ago

      I bet men have tried you though.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • Nickvey
        6 years ago

        nope , many have tried though

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0