Is it normal how to explain parents not coming to wedding

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she has a grudge with almost everyone at the wedding. .she thinks parties are boring. she hates that I am having booze and meat there (she is a vegan)and that my dress looks slutty and the island cupcakes look stupid.(it's awesome).my dad also is not allowed to come because she says so.(he sent me a huge check for a nice honeymoon as a sorry, but I would rather have him at my wedding) I think she is being unfair and I am not changing anything because I am paying for it.I just don't know how to explain why my mom isn't there.I am afraid that is all anyone is going to want to talk about. She is telling everyone I don't want her there. I had to block her on fb and get a new number she doesn't know so I don't have to look at her texts.I am not talking to her at this point because all the drama makes me sick. I am getting married in like a week and don't need the stress.It is going to be really low key and hawaian themed. .

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    You don't have to explain anything: ask a friend or friends to pass the word around that you don't want to talk about it on your wedding day and if anyone wants to know why she's not there, they should ask her. You can politely say the same to anyone who asks you directly.

    She sounds selfish and idiotic: like Azaman, I think marriage and weddings are irrelevant, but it's your day to remember so don't let her spoil it. I hope it all goes well for you.

    My daughter withdrew my invitation to her second wedding because the husband and I had a big argument and she took his side: I really must ask her one of these days what she told people about why I wasn't there.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    I personally think marriage is dumb, but if I've learned anything, wedding days are for the bride, and no one else really. So fuck her, have a good day!

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  • RavenFlight
    7 years ago

    F**K I CLICKED YES INSTEAD OF NO!

    Its NOT NORMAL, Your moms being a B*TCH and your father feels like he has to stick with her, Enjoy your marriage, But seriously, If my mom was like that, I wouldn't WANT her at my wedding, You're a good person, Best wishes to you for the future. I guess your father has given you his blessing from a distance, Just know that even though most of us are total strangers, We're rootin' for ya, Have fun on your honeymoon!

    P.S. If you see your mom in person after the wedding, Flip her the long one!

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  • NeilYounger
    7 years ago

    The majority of the folkes must know your mother, right? Her absence will explain itself then. I feel for your dad. His baby is getting married and he is not able to be there. Total bummer. Whenever you and your husband have children I think mom will make her peace with the two of you. So I hope you will be prepared to forgive. But it is YOUR happiness that is paramount here, honey. Congratulations, and may God bless. :-D

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    Why do you have to explain anything? Your wedding do what you like and enjoy YOUR day. Its about you not them.

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  • agoodlovejoy
    7 years ago

    You dont have your mother nor fathers blessing. This is a sign that the marriage wont last. Be sure you secure your job, credit and finances. Try your best to keep good birth control so you wont get overwhelmed if you should become a single parent someday. Dont use the IUD birth control method. Many private doctors have been sued for tampering/rupturing with it during yearly exams. Wish someone could have told me. All these things happened to me. Just play it safe

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  • polkadotbikini
    7 years ago

    You aren't the one that is gonna look bad.most of the people there probably know what your mother and father are like so you probably won't have to say anything.Don't let a shrew and a coward ruin your day.

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  • bridetobe
    7 years ago

    I plan to thanks

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