Is it normal how do i make my husband :) ? i seem to do everything wrong:(

You're with a narcissist

Walk away, don't look back or you'll turn into a corpse, not a pillar of salt like in the movies

Anyways, just walk away

He's a bullying control freak: get out now for your own sanity

He hates himself and wants someone to be miserable with. Don't be that person.

Run, don't walk, away! Seriously, he's an asshole. Leave him.

He sounds VERY controlling. I'm sure you are doing things the right way but it is not "his way" and that gives him anxiety. He needs to either get help or you should file for divorce. You don't deserve to be treated this way.

It is indeed nuts, and you should pack your bags. He'll probably beg for a second chance and go back to how he was before, but you shouldn't buy that. What you see now is the person he really is.

Maybe he genuinely believes that "all husbands do this out of love to their wives" because that's what he saw growing up. Is his father a demanding, abusive, perfectionist asshole as well?

Or maybe your husband is just a perfectionist idiot who thinks that doing everything absolutely "right" (which is very often based on nothing more than his opinion) is what he needs to do in order to be respected and loved.

Or maybe he's OCD.

In any case, what you describe is disrespectful, manipulative, and abusive at best. But there's a hint of something even worse that might come in time.

Does he try to keep you away from other people, and go nuts if you ever talk to another man for any reason? Does he gaslight you - claim you said things you know you never did, or say he told you things that you know he never mentioned? In other words, does he make you question your understanding of reality?

Any of those things is a huge red banner, and you definitely should leave immediately if any apply. People in relationships with psychopaths get beaten down so much that they can completely lose their own identity. It can take years to recover, and sometimes it never happens.

It sounds like you're not drinking enough wine because of that prick. Don't take his shit life is way to short to be treated in such a manor. It will be hard at first, but it will be the best thing you can do for yourself to start over without him. Let that succubus me miserable and move on to a better life because you deserve it.

I don't see him ever changing. The faultfinder will find faults, even in paradise.

Without paying attention to my screen name, hear me out.

Your husband is a jerk. Leave him, file for divorce, and financially ruin him. You don't have to please him, or prove anything to him. He doesn't respect you, nor does he deserve you.

You try hard all the time, and sometimes, when your best isn't "good enough", you need to stop trying to force all your energy into something that ultimately won't work.

You married him. He is your husband and should be championing your efforts, not picking on you. What he is doing to you qualifies as emotional abuse, and if you don't leave soon, it sounds like he'll get physically aggressive too.

Don't be scared to threaten him, but make sure your threats aren't empty.

Be sure to drain his bank account and vandalize his car keys on the way out. Also take all his vinyl LP's and microwave them.

He needs help, you need to tell him that what he is doing is not normal and he needs to respect you.

You need to tell him that he needs to start making a effort to trust your actions, or go to therapy for ocd... otherwise you will leave.

Sounds like a douche. Time to bail.

you leave him and he will change or you will find someone worth spending your 1 life with . I wouldn't waste any time on this planet doing anything that didn't make me happy . He should be a kind , contributing , caring individual that loves to take you dancing and fuck you all week , licking your asshole.

Well most of the above comments are right. This isn't normal, he's a jerk, leave that idiot behind.

The key term is ‘make’. You cant make him do anything, just as he cant make you do anything. Therefore you should leave him as he sounds emotionally abusive.

i only leave post it notes for people i have already lined up a replacement for. if you see a post it note from me telling you how you failed me your days are probably numbered its more to let the other employees know than you anyway. then the last post it note is usually two words long . see me. does you husband use post notes at work by chance?

My father is like that. But he was also violent and obsessed with control. Me and my mom abandoned him as soon as we could and I can't be happier with our decision. I'll never interact with him again and I don't feel like I've ever had a father. You draw the conclusion.

Yes I agree this is narcissistic behavior, he is faulty not You.
I'm sure that is not the way of life.
Either he is faulty or he wants divorce.

You married an asshole.
The next time you have sex, start telling him he wasn't doing it the right way.

Wow, that sounds very depressing, sorry you have to live like that. Leave him if he can't accept you for who you are. And no, all husbands do not do that.

It is probably normal. That's how my dad and brother were. They would make me do things over and over til I cried. Now that's all wrapped up in perveted sexual fantasies of mine.

Get out and get help before it is to late.

Ask him to leave or if he owns the place your staying at leave him. Relationships go both ways. If one person is not working at it then it's not a relationship.