Is it normal holding back how i really feel about things with my boyfriend?

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now and in another year he will be leaving to go to physical therapy school. i want him to follow his dreams but i don't know if i can personally handle him being away for so long. going a week now without seeing him puts such a toll on me and makes me incredibly upset and sad. i want to be with him but i don't know if him going away for such a long time will make me go insane. i feel like i wont be able to handle it, but i cant find it in me to tell him because i don't want to ruin his dreams.

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  • dirtybirdy
    10 years ago

    You're going to have to deal with it and carry on with your life while he's away or just split up.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    First of all, you are very mature since you understand that you shouldn't be in the way of your BF´s dreams!

    But you also feel as if your relatinship couldn't handle being apart from one another, so tell him everything about how you feel.

    Maybe you could even come with him?

    I'm like you myself, being apart from the one i love breaks my heart so i'd not be able to hold back telling him.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    Secretly suffering isn't worth the baggage. Get it out in the open.
    I understand that you're considering his life path and not obstructing it but you're his partner and partners work through these things by talking.

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  • StarTeddy
    10 years ago

    I feel the same way about relationships. You just gotta be honest with him and with yourself. I've made it clear in my relationships that I cannot handle long-distance and that if it comes to that I'd either find someone else to be my emotional support or we'd have to break up. Maybe having it clear like that will make him reconsider his options...like going to a school that's close by or making an effort to see you regularly despite the distance.

    If you don't say anything the relationship will be over in a year anyway, so what you do depends on how much effort you're willing to put into this relationship to make it work in the long-term.

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    • plum6
      10 years ago

      I think it's actually cute that she cares so much. Even though it would probably be kind of an annoying ad unexpected turn of events for the BF that she feels this way it is always better to share these feelings. IMO if after this disclosure from whom I assume he considers the love of his life he really doesn't seem to be willing to make an effort to change or at least help to improve the situation he wouldn't be the right guy anyway..

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    If he's not going away for a year, why waste the time you do have together worrying about the future.
    It sounds to me you two won't be together in a year anyway, so it will be a non-issue, then.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      I hate gypsies.

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      • thegypsysailor
        10 years ago

        Then gypsies hate you too, I guess.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Just find another guy on the side to help cope with you pain of him being gone like any other normal girl would do.

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  • TheInfamousStranger
    10 years ago

    Well Fuck.

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