Is it normal his ex on instagram?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, we fell very passionately and intensely in love. He told me he only ever felt like this once before and that was 'puppy love' with his ex when he was a teenager (he is 27 and I am 26). He broke up with this girl when he was at Uni but speaks quite highly of her when she comes up (which is rarely).

The thing is he follows her on Insta (which he joined after we got together) and although I don't think he's ever liked any of her pictures, she likes nearly all of his, and the same when he posts on Facebook (which is very rarely). It kind of weirds me out, especially as I remember she asked him to meet up with her when we very first got together (we were just dating and he mentioned it to me casually, but it never happened as far as he told me).

I have said to him it's weird she likes so much of his stuff on social media and he said he thinks it's been so long since they were together that it's just a kind of distant fondness on her part. But it scares me that it would be so easy for her to reach out to meet up again when I know that he had such strong feelings for her at one time, and also that they broke up because of long distance rather any incompatibility etc. I don't want her to come back into his life and I don't like that he is still interested in what she is doing like that.

Am I being paranoid? I do trust my boyfriend but this particular girl threatens me.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    You're just insecure.

    Trust your boyfriend and respect his privacy. This girl isn't a threat unless you fool yourself into believing so.

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  • luroxy
    8 years ago

    They will just start hidding it. Ask him if he loves her.

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  • PeoplePerson
    8 years ago

    I'm friends with at least 8 of my exes and I only fuck them once in a while when I can't find any new pussy, so don't worry. He could probably fuck some new chick that he hasn't already banged and that's an obvious choice over old pussy from the past.

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    • PeoplePerson
      8 years ago

      In all seriousness, yes it's very easy and comfortable to go back to an ex. I have cheated with exes when I was young because in my mind it seemed like I'd already slept with the girl so the chronology of it seemed secondary. That's of course very flawed logic, but guys can justify just about anything when sex is involved. I'd just be open and honest about it without being all crazy. I really AM actual friends with several exes and as long as I care about the girl I'm with I'd never cheat. Accessible ex or not, if he's into you he won't cheat. Determine that without bringing her up because if it's not her it'll be someone else if that's his M.O.

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  • Steve2.1
    8 years ago

    Why do children like you feel the need to waste time on such trivial and meaningless principles like love?

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  • Inсоmplet
    8 years ago

    Why are you asking users on this site for serious advice?

    Long answer short: yeah, it's pretty normal that you're feeling paranoid, threatened and insecure. His ex is constantly reminding him that she's around. There's not much you can do about it, though.

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