Is it normal her best friend complains over trivial stuff?

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My sister has a best friend whom she used to talk to on a daily basis and literally spoke 24/7

She did eventually find this overwhelming too because her best friend would always tag her in numerous Facebook posts per day.

Weird thing is, her best mate gets all "upset" when she takes a while to reply or that their in conversation and then she doesn't open his message.

Usually a big argument esculates because of this.

I think he's being such a cry baby and extremely needy.

I have had friends even close ones takes hours to respond to me but not only that, but I literally wouldn't hear from one of my "close" friends for month.

I used to be upset over my friend not talking to me at least every two weeks or so and now I realize that I wasn't being needy compared to the relationship my sister has with
her best friend

is it normal her bestie acts like this?

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  • BlueAlice
    6 years ago

    Sadly, I know a few people like that. Is the guy in question neurodivergent in some way (I. E. Is he auristic/does he have another disability and/or mental health condition)?

    I haven't voted yet as it's not normal to me, but it's my kind of normal for others I know

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Just thinking about all of that bullshit gives me a headache. I have no desire to be accountable to anyone, male or female, friend or partner. I'm only accountable to my Siamese cat and that's fine with me.

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  • Seahawksfan56
    6 years ago

    Wow! I can help here. It's not that he is dissatisfied with the amount of conversation, but the quality of it. As "that guy" what I wanted was to feel like the talking that did happen counted for something. Be that as it may, I'm glad we don't talk anymore, and maybe they shouldn't either. It really hurt me, and will probably hurt him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I'm sorry I don't understand what you are trying to say?...My sister and best mate have all sorts of conversations.

      Should have stated their ages-
      Sister 21 and her mate, he's 25

      Ranging from deep and
      meaningful to light hearted & trivial.

      The issue is that my sister always replies to his messages and always replies to things he tags her in.
      The only on going issue that her best mate brings up is that my sister takes ages to reply or they're in conversation and she doesn't open the message for a while.
      Even gets all upset over my sister not liking something he wrote to her somewhere on social media.

      Wow! End of the world catastrophy! He gets up and arms over the stupidest things! Like mate, try having a close friend who doesn't even make much effort in the friendship where u are supposed to be close and yet I wouldn't hear from my best friend for Fucking Months!.
      I was always making the effort whereas my sister is a superb friend, makes effort and actually replies regularly.
      He honestly imo is selfish and expecting way too much.

      Try having friends like me then her best mate has a right to complain.

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      • Seahawksfan56
        6 years ago

        Noticing that it is a male and female of a similar age group, it is very likely that there is something else he wants. Don't know y'all, sorry if I'm completely off. But maybe he's not happy being a mate. If they can talk about that it might help. From the details you have stated.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          It can be very likely in any case whether it be 2 females, 2 guys or heterosexuals.

          No, he's just written a long text explaining everything and stating he's very happy being friends and hopes not to lose that. They established a friendship from day one because they have a brother/ sister bond

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          • Seahawksfan56
            6 years ago

            How did the subject of the nature of the relationship even come up though. Whatever the case is, a talk would help. Maybe he feels with held on. Maybe he feels like a creep. None of that excuses being a nuisance, but if he's nagging and discussing the nature of the relationship there is clearly a misunderstanding on any part. You say she is honestly open though, so beyond that I don't know what can help.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              6 years ago

              It came up because he decided to be a pussy and make a mountain out of a molehill in the way that he was upset my sister didn't like every single one of his comments on social media. During a conversation she could just feel he was "off" then next thing he's saying all this crap like maybe u need space etc

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Not normal. Worrying if she's an adult.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      What do you mean worrying if she's an adult?

      Don't you think her best friend is being too clingy?

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      • Pumpurrnickel
        6 years ago

        I didn't read carefully and assumed her friend was a girl. My bad. Worrying if he's an adult, as in he's acting like a little kid. He shouldn't care so much about getting a reply a little later.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Ah gotcha yeah I agree !

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