Is it normal he wants to be a pilot

it sounds like he's making good plans for his life. it usually takes years to train as a pilot but it's a great job. if he wants to work as a pizza delivery boy while he trains, what's wrong with that? it's an income. sounds like he could do without you bitching at him

Why should he do shit when he's got a push over like you to support him?
I don't know what classes he'd need to take to be a pilot other than flight training, if he's already a high school graduate.

I can see your frustration, and I can see why you would feel that way.

Like others have said on here though, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think that's all that really matters especially since you guys are both undergrad I'm assuming and fairly young. If you are looking to settle down and add the financial aspect to it more, then I think you need to let him know and see what he says/does and figure it out with that in mind.

He might not know how much it is bothering you. If you haven't already, I would talk to him about it in a nice way and definitely not call his pilot ambitions "stupid" or "silly" or anything. Maybe he will feel bad an offer to work more or something?

But as someone who is pretty young myself, I can say that I don't feel near ready to get a 9-5 job and start working full time. I kinda just want to figure out myself and my life and enjoy it and pursue my dreams and passions. And I think that you guys should both have the opportunity to do that. And if you're feeling the pressure because you feel he isn't pulling his weight and it's preventing you from enjoying your life, then you should let him know and you guys can work something out together. And you guys should BOTH be able to pursue your dreams and passions.

I think it's wonderful that you are an medic and that you are doing pre med. That is an ambitious career, but I think it's a wonderful career! I think that it's wonderful that your bf wants to be a pilot. That is an ambitious career, but it is a career that I think has a lot of opportunity and right now from what I hear, there is a nice window for that career. Who knows how long it will last, but hopefully if your bf is able to keep working through his training, he can have a nice window of opportunity there. And both of your career paths have potential to earn well over 6 figures. I wish you both the best with your passions!

Haha well neither of you guys picked an "easy" road, but both of those paths have potential to be making well over 6 figures in 5-10 years. I can see where your frustration would come in, as you probably feel like you are pulling a lot of the weight. He's invested in the long term right now, so yeah he could go get a full time job, but in 10 years, where's he gonna be?

I think if you haven't already, you should talk to him about it and just let him know how you feel in a nice way. Maybe he'll feel bad and offer to work more. But I'm assuming that you guys are both undergraduate, and therefore pretty young, and ideally those are the years to try to kind of figure out what you want to do and take some time to not be working all the time if you don't have to.

Also I mean like some others have said, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think as long as you guys are young, that's really all that matters. If you're looking to settle down and add the financial thing into the equation, then that's something that you kind of have to consider and you have to establish that with him and let him know that matters and take it from there.

I think you guys should both pursue your dreams! And encourage each other to do so! If he wants to be a pilot, then awesome! It really has a lot of potential as a career and there's a nice little window in the industry right now if he gets his training done fairly quickly from what I hear. But if you are feeling financial pressure, I think you should let him know in a nice way and hopefully he'll try to help. He might not know that it's bugging you.

So you are mad that he has ambitions? I'd be done with you in a second if I were him.

Why did you decide to date him then? It was kind of your own choice, sugarplum.

Do you want to pay for all his shit instead? No? Then either go out and find another job for him or get off his back.

It is partially your own fault for not saying anything about it to him sooner. Does he treat you good in other ways? Is he a loving boyfriend? If money and careers are the only thing you care about in a man, then just break up with him I guess.

it's normal to get annoyed with him but i don't know why your picking now to get mad at him. it seems like its been like this for years.