Iin,he dumped me after realizing how serious my feelings were for him?

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HE dumped me straight away after knowing how deep my feelings are .Yesterday,he randomly asked about all of my wishes.I told him everything ,my every wish including 'him'.I told him exactly how much i wanted him ,how my life would be incomplete without him.I just expressed my innermost feelings and he didn't even replied me sadly.I don't know what to do.Is this normal for boys to dump those girls who start loving them sincerely,truly,madly,deeply? I feel so depressed right now writing this story .I 'wish' he goes through this story once as he stopped contacting me ...Is it normal?

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  • taciturn
    12 years ago

    I really don't think it has anything to do with a man's love of a "challenge". He didn't feel the same way. It's as simple as that. He's clearly handling it in a very immature and inconsiderate way, but what he did does make sense to me. If someone told you they were "truly, madly, deeply" in love with you, and you didn't feel the same way, wouldn't you feel a little uncomfortable? I know I would. I wouldn't cut off contact or be rude, but I also couldn't just continue the relationship as if we were on the same level of love and intimacy.

    But ultimately it's hard for us to comment unless we know a little more. How long had you two been dating? Have you ever told him before that you love him? Has he ever told you? How comfortable is he with being intimate and sharing his feelings?

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    • FallenAngel.died
      12 years ago

      Its been one year now .and yes he know this that i have been feeling differently for him since months now .I do know that he tries to hide his feelings sometimes .he is good he is sincere .he is like an ideal person but he :( '.I really tried hard to face the truth but could not change my feeling for him.I think he just took me as a 'friend'and I expected .... something else .YES he never actually said he loved me but through his care and feelings shown ,i thought he loved me (and my love grew deeper and deeper) ... :( n now no contact nothing .. :( he is so full of ego ..i wonder why ..LOVE IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF MY LIFE

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      • taciturn
        12 years ago

        Naw, don't say that. I know it hurts and I know it's tempting to just give up, but it will always get better. Learn to be happy with yourself, and then see if you can find a mutually dependent relationship.

        Can I ask how old you both are?

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        • FallenAngel.died
          12 years ago

          Yes I am 20 and i am a student of 3rd year engineering n He is 24 .. student of MBA ... .Yes i guess u r right i have to try harder but at least try TO BE HAPPY with myself :(

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  • evil_elvis
    12 years ago

    It does sound like he didn't feel the same way. That must have really hurt to get rejected after sharing such intimate feelings. All I can say is there is nothing wrong with what you did and I wish you well as you recover from the breakup.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    You probably freaked him out by spewing all of your true feelings at once.

    ''Let's get married tomorrow...''

    "SEE YA!''

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    • FallenAngel.died
      12 years ago

      um well you made me laugh ! but no .I didn't asked him 2 marry or whatever .he could have asked me to fade away from his life but no!!!!!!!! boys are not like this . They can't handle SINCERITY i think ! They are afraid of a true and long term relationship .... but i didn't asked him to marry me come on I am just 20 .i just said how much i loved him ..n i don't care we marry or don't but ....... :(

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  • big.z
    12 years ago

    You guys call him immature I call it mature . At least he told you he wasn't interested now rather then further down the road . Mabye he was giving it a shot to see if he had feelings for you . Mabye you came on way to strong and scared him off . Probably the last one

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    • taciturn
      12 years ago

      The part that seemed immature to me was cutting off all contact, but now that I read through the story again, it's only stated that he stopped contacting. But it also doesn't seem like he provided any proper explanation, which isn't very mature.

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      • FallenAngel.died
        12 years ago

        After a complete year of relationship ... NO CONTACT that hurts so much .I couldn't even express how i felt and how i am feeling right now ... He could have asked me to go away from his life or simply vanish . i could have done that (or may be i could have demanded some time )BUT this sudden break up is .....breaking me .

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  • krisichi
    12 years ago

    Maybe it's cause the challenge was gone, maybe it was because he gets scared of intimacy but whatever reason that was a stupid move he did

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Guys like a challenge and once you told him everything the challenged was gone. I think love kinda freaks a lot of people out since, in today's world, the concept is slowly starting to lose its meaning thanks to the low moral standards of most societies.

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    • FallenAngel.died
      12 years ago

      you r ryt :(

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