Iin2have no respect for those trying to wait for marriage before sex?

Come on dude, it's a personal choice. Just like deciding not to have a steady relationship till after college, not getting married or starting a family before a certain age, not having kids at all, or not buying a car to save the environment..etc. It's also a personal choice to have sex at a young age.

Let people live their life the way they want as long as they don't harm themselves or anybody else and stop being so judgmental.

You should have respect for these people that have an incredible self-control and that live their lives ''according'' to their moral values.

I think that being able to live with someone and going trough ups and downs and still being there after all kind of shit WITHOUT sex shows that their relationship have a solid base and that it isn't based on sex and attraction only.

To me that means that they should marry and that they are gonna live a good mariage because for them sex is just a ''plus'' , not a necessity to be able to live with their partner.

i don't know.. but i would hope that you'd get some exposure to vaginal penitration before you get a cock shoved up in there. you're setting yourself up for a lot of blood and a painful first time if marriage is the first time anyone's touched that precious, sacred thing.

plus, after you have kids, it's not as good.
i figure you should probably start earlier. once you marry, expect kids within a few years. then you've really only got a few years od decent sex before it starts looking like an old, leather sleeve up there.

consider also: wholesome sex is boring.

it is normal for u to not respect such people, coz thats how u feel about it..sure, u ll b part of a minority but u shouldnt feel uncomfortable about ur opinion..i personally hav no respect for people hu hav sex b4 mrg..i dont even like this dating business..i think luv n sex cum only post-mrg (&i am considered weird by many)

The problem is that so many that hang on to virginity do so because they think it makes them a "better person" than those that do not..that they are "saving themselves" and they are better people than others. OOOOOH, I'M SUCH A BETTER PERSON THAN YOU...OOOOH!

Part of the religious right, who are neither religious nor right. They go to church not to be a better person but to be a better person than you. Just ask them. A total root hypocrisy. PUH--LEASE!!!!

I agree with Echoes.

I agree with Echoes. Everyone has a right to choose how they live their life.

I believe it's the right thing to do. It shows self confidence and cleanliness. Because some don't have sex because of religion, but others might not want to risk the chance of getting pregnant before marriage. In others words they are traditional and want their big life changes in the right order. I do too, so I'm waiting as well.

Well I reckon the thought of saving oneself for that special person on that special night is quite honourable.

im not a virgin but i waited till i was out of high school!... me and my (not virgin fiance)r waiting till we move in with eachother b4sex and no kids till we r married!... i love my sweety so much this waiting is hard but worth it... im not some whore that fucks every guy i can like 30 plus guys or something..... i wait a while b4sex usualy.. but this guy is super special to me and i dont wana fuck it up in anyway!... he is the love of my life!

I have had sex with 32 guys, yet never had an orgasm till I met my husband. I think love had a lot to do with it. He had only been with 3 before me. I think for someone to stay a virgin until marriage is smart. No diseases or unplanned pregnancies. If you truly love each other you teach each other what you like best and be open minded and try new things.

Imma girl btw! The way i see it im gonna fall inlove many times before im married and i want to give my future hubby more than my leftover or what remains of my heart i want him to be the only one that i share my sex life with now im not sayin im not into foreplay cuz i am i just want to wait to go all the way;D hope this gave u a lil understanddind<--srry bout mispeling, i use a touch screen XD

i suppose you can still be sexual without having sex.

certain religions don't allow even that, though, which is weird.

It's a nice idea, saving yourself for someone special, but personally I do not believe you have to wait till marriage, I'm sure a special person may be a long relationship where you both really like eachother. It's a difference in opinion. If they decide to save themselves for marriage and realise their sex life isn't that great, then that is there mistake. On the other hand, if both love eachother then they should be willing to go through the first time together etc etc. It's an option I guess, and a personal one too.

It's a personal choice. Put all the religious, traditions and cultural views aside.. Who deserves sharing with you this kind of love other than the person who you picked to spend the rest of your life with? Although I respect the people who have sex before marriage equally as I respect people who don't.. A person shouldn't be judged based on that kind of thing.

Being a "stupid little Barlow girl" myself, I'm glad I waited :p

Whoa! Not as good after kids? You have no idea what you're talking about. I thought I was having a good time in bed in my twenties, same in my thirties. I thought having one or two orgasms during sex was fabulous. Well I have an adult son, I'm in my forties and sex is the best it's ever been. I have thirty plus orgasms every time and it just keeps getting better. Sex in my twenties was nothing compared to now. Trust me there is nothing leather-like about my "sleeve."

And to the poster, personally I agree with you. I think if you wait until marriage you are setting yourself up for the POSSIBILITY of a lot of frustration and disappointment. If you've never sailed why would you buy a sailboat? How do you know you're going to like it!?

I think experimentation is a good thing - if it's done responsibly and with mutual respect. So much of good sex is dependent upon your partner's skills. If you wait for marriage then how do you know your partner makes you feel good? There are a lot of lousy lover out there. Making love WELL is a skill that takes time and doesn't necessarily come naturally. Some people just have no idea how to touch someone in the right way. Why would you not test drive the car before signing the papers?? I can't imagine not having sex with the person I'm going to marry BEFOREHAND. Having lousy sex is worse than no sex at all. If you don't try out your partner before you marry, then how do you know you're sexually compatible?

Waiting until marriage is a choice, and for many it has nothing to do with external influences but the brain they have inside their heads. I have nothing against those who do not choose to wait, I can understand that point of view, but you shouldn't hate a group of people just because they're following their sense of morals. You obviously have different morals, yet I don't hate you for them, I accept and tolerate them, and you should do the same.

you have a good point but the idea that they hang on to is that in marriage there your first and only and no one else can have them but u

Yes. 80% of people who say they're waiting for marriage break it by college, so they're hypocrites.

Haha oops hit submit 2 early.......
But if u dont no what to do, u can still learn what ur partner likes, and itmakes it benificial for ur marriage

WTF guys it's fucking annoying

you should have more respect for people who save themselves for marriage.. the world is becoming topsy turvy

Making love (which is diff. From sex in my mind) is about haveing that special connection with someone and loving them. Some ppl demonstrate that love by staying virgins. It is also a religious belief, becuz catholics (as an example) think that ur body shoukd only belong to u till u are married. Its everyone's choice and u need to learn how to respect that

well i will admit that that may be true that some people are pressured into waiting but i personally think that if i ever did get married id want her to be a virgin.people who sleep around are disgusting, and if ur married ur already in love (hopefully)and are hopefully gonna be together for the rest of thier lives, why sleep with someone you dont really care about that could be gone tomorrow,seems like a wast to me

While you may have your ideas that waiting till after marriage is a train wreck waiting to happen, you should still have SOME respect for that decision. I believe it's the right thing to do, but your question was based on respect of people who wait, not waiting itself. Nope, not normal.

i can accept this if they don't really enjoy sex(no clit or something) and they just wanna fck to produce offsprings. If this don't apply then they are morons.