Iin2 have a conflict w/a professor and then not be able 2 get over it?

Okay...So I have a professor who has a very specific procedure for pop quizzes. I know this, but I decided to skip one day. A friend of mine texted me that there was a quiz, and I tried to get there, but was too late. At the end of class I tried to take it, making up a lie about helping a friend, but he said no. Then on my way out, a student was questioning why he had to have such "absurd" procedures. (We bring the scantrons to class ourselves, he won't pass out more. Also, he never says when the quizzes will be, he has them at random times during the class, and if you are late then you can't take it. It is more about attendance than actual learning.) I don't really think the student was right, but I was mad, and the professor seemed like a bully. So I got pissy, and then he made a snide comment, something like "Well that is totally wrong, and you are feeling mad about not being able to take the quiz." I swear, he HATES ME, and I shouldn't care, but I CANNOT GET IT OFF MY MIND! I feel embarrassed, upset, angry, ashamed, but still prideful, like I can't apologize, but I don't think I acted appropriately. Is it normal to stay angry at the professor, or should I rethink my actions? I don't know if it is so normal to obsess over a comment by a professor I don't even like...am I just not used to being "hated?"

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  • I think it's normal because everyone holds a grudge for at least a second and some peoples grudges just last longer than others but I think u should just let it go and move on with ur life because compared to what u will deal with in the future the fight with ur professor was nothing

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  • BfingIToucher

    Let's say you missed class because you truly were helping a friend. Then I might feel some empathy. But you were actually skipping and then lied about it. Your professor didn't buy your story. It doesn't matter if he is mean, kind, a bad teacher, whatever, you shouldn't get special privileges. I say apologize (at least for your grade's sake) and learn from this.

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  • RomeoDeMontague

    Well ok clearly he wants to make sure people attend his class. Attending class is important and a teacher has a right to mark you as absent if you are late. I also remember in school and this was not university I never missed a day of class. Since they would give us tests for every class every other day. My parents once forced me to miss for a stupid reason and did not care my grade would drop and I said "I HAD A TEST". Which bothered me that I cared more about keeping up grades than my parents did.

    In fact some teachers will just lock the door and I have seen this done to people in grades below University as well. If you have an excuse like you were vomiting or something than I believe yes you should get a right to retake it.

    I was forced to go to sick when I was little and throw up in class. So I think you should be given some amount of sick time.

    You should be on time to class. Unless there is something like you were being mugged or vomiting I don't see why you wouldn't try and get to class on time. I always did and teachers did not pity even if you were on the other side of school. So yes its very normal. You are just not responsible enough to go to class. If you want to fuck around don't bitch when your teacher doesn't let you take the test. Since its your fault.

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  • dappled

    It doesn't sound like you are hated. It was just a disagreement. I doubt he even remembers. Apologise if you want to, but I don't think he'll care much either way.

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  • TyLee

    I don't think that you are being emo or bratty lol your story reminds me if this horrible bio class that I had. The same thing happened where I came in five minutes late and she wouldn't let me take the quiz... At this point it was a matter or me passing or failing the class... Cause she hated me so much. She even told me to drop at least 5 times, but I stayed through it to the end. She wanted me to not miss one class (It was three days a week) anyway she was so mean to me for example she let everyone else have a partner but not me, she always picked on me etc. A couple kids even said to me omg why does she hate you? And I'm sorry she is such a bitch to you! Anyway I failed the class... But I think sometimes (and def in your case) the teacher is the problem!!!! So my advice is to remember that sometimes it is ok to blame the teacher, don't feel bad or worry about it, and also you seem very very sweet so don't let anyone especially bad teachers bring you down. Good luck getting through your class :)

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  • Why so emo?

    I doubt he hates you. He teaches dozens if not hundreds of students and half of them are smart asses so what makes you think you stick out to him?

    And even if you did it doesn't matter. You'll know him for 1 year and you'll never see him again.

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  • suppose19

    haha, surprisingly, your harsh comments make me feel better. I realized I am only upset because I know I was wrong and I want to apologize--but I don't like him so I don't want to. I am being a brat, and that is why I hate it. lol, Why so emo indeed...

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