Is it normal hanging out having sex and not be in a relationship?

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This is more than just friends with benefits but less than a serious relationship. It seems like me and my bf who I just separated from are still attracted to each other emotionally and physically but were not together at the moment mostly cause of him. I don't know what to do because I would like to still see him and even do it with him but I don't think its healthy. Or maybe it is. I'm hoping we get back together in the future when everything's better but if we pursue this whole non relationship thing will it prevent us from being together like a real couple? Or it won't affect it at all?

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Based on 29 votes (18 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    My philosophy on this sort of trouble is pretty much he's your ex for a reason.

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  • EnigmaT21
    7 years ago

    sounds pretty normal but you should try to get a way to express yourself emotionally if that kind of relationship doesnt make it

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  • Daugenstein2
    7 years ago

    Yes, I did that all the time when I lived in Bangkok. I lost count of all the women I fucked after I reached 30.

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  • SkullsNRoses
    7 years ago

    Sounds like he's using you to get sex without the commitment. He knows he can keep you crawling back and that's what he'll do until you wake up and move on. Sorry if it sounds harsh but someone had to say it. Good luck getting your love life on track though.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      It's not the first time I hear this because its the usual assumption of what is going on but I'm not really convinced. I don't think he's using me or at least means to use me. He might still have feelings for me but doesn't want a relationship. Is that a bad thing? I don't really see how that's a bad thing because in a way, I also don't want a relationship at the moment but I do want him and I'm not using him. So I'm not the bad guy and neither is he since he's feeling the same way. I just want to see if this is going to prevent us from becoming a real couple or it's actually going to help.

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  • roxandham
    7 years ago

    An ex should stay an ex.. I cut them out of my life completely and move on. Dragging on old relationships never does any good.
    But go with your gut, trust it. Seriously. I never did and I regret it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      I can't seem to cut him completely off even though I did love him. You would think I would want him out of my life cause I just want him as my bf but actually, I still want him in my life. He was also open about staying in touch. So in that case, we're mutual. There are just so many things we shared that itll be hard to cut off. Cutting him would mean cutting off a sense of humor, life style, etc. And I think those factors are whats going to tie us together. I feel like he will eventually come back to me for intimacy or companionship but I can't see myself throwing myself at him like I would like to because I want him to respect me. Plus, good guys like a girl with self-respect.

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  • EccentricWeird
    7 years ago

    Ho

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  • AnonymousLoser
    7 years ago

    That's a tricky one. I'd talk to him about it and find out how he feels about the current and possible situations. However, I don't know you or him or the situation, that's just what I'd do If it were my relationship.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Well we both were open to the idea of staying in touch. So I know that for sure, I expect him to contact me every now and then. As for friends with benefits, I dont know...I think if that were to happen its because we still want each other but we don't want a relationship. I dont think thats a bad thing. I dont think that means we're "using" each other.

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