Is it normal guilty for looking at friend’s nude

During a sleepover, my best friend said that he gets nudes from his girlfriend. I didn’t believe him, and he said he’ll show me one if I want to. I didn’t expect him to actually have one so when he showed me on his phone I was completely shocked, he then acted like it was nothing. Later I started to feel a lot of guilt about looking at it since I was good friends with her, so I texted her about it and she got very angry at me and my best friend and angrily texted him until 1am, while he also was angry with me. The next day she wouldn’t talk to me about it and neither did my best friend. Now I feel as if they are both angry at me and I still feel ashamed for looking at the nude. Was my decision to tell her something that you would have also done?

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think it's normal to feel a little awkward, and perhaps even guilty after you saw that nudie pic, but I think it was a poor choice to tell her. I know she's your friend as well as the guy but it's unwise to put yourself in between couples with regard to things that might cause a serious disagreement, because you will always end up as the odd man out, and it will be them against you, dear heart... and the same goes for people who are related.

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  • KholatKhult

    The guilt is normal, though I feel like you’re at least having the right attitude about it.

    Nudity has power if you give it power, and it’s clear that keeping her body private, or limiting the access to it, is something that is important to her. This should always be respected.

    Your friend was in the wrong for showing you these photos, it’s very disloyal and vile to do to his girlfriend.

    She is embarrassed, which is to be expected, give her time to figure out how she wants to handle it from here.

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  • Boojum

    Hopefully, all three of you will have learned valuable lessons from your own particular acts of stupidity here.

    The girlfriend should learn that sending nudes to boyfriends is a stupid thing to do if she doesn't like the idea that everyone he knows will see them sooner or later. She should also learn that her boyfriend is an immature asshat whom she should dump at the earliest opportunity.

    Your friend should learn that bragging about what his girlfriends do for him is uncool, and showing off things sent to him in confidence is a shithead thing to do that can land him in trouble.

    As for you, the first thing you should take from this incident is that fucking texting is not the most appropriate medium for dealing with sensitive issues. You should have had the sense to know you should keep your mouth shut and spend some time pondering how to deal with the situation. If you decided the girl should know that her boyfriend was showing off the nude pictures she sent him (and it's safe to assume that if he showed you, then he's probably shown the pictures to others), that should have been something you talked to her about face-to-face.

    Which leads me to something else you should think about: why exactly did you feel the need to tell the girl what her boyfriend had done? Do you enjoy midnight dramas? Are you secretly jealous of your male friend and want him and his girlfriend to break up? Are you trying to get into her pants? Do you actually hate the guy and you wanted to dump him in the shit? Or are you just one of those idiots who always acts on impulse and never pauses to think through the possible consequences of his actions?

    You say you felt guilt because you'd seen the picture, but how the hell was telling her about you seeing the picture supposed to make you feel less guilty? If you happened to look down a woman's blouse one day and saw more tit than you felt you were entitled to see and felt guilty about that, would you immediately tell her that too?

    The best you can gain from this incident is the understanding that there are many times in life when the best course of action is to keep your mouth shut, and you should think very carefully before inserting yourself in the relationships of others.

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  • CozmoWank

    Cozmo's Three Rules To Live By-
    1)Never pose for nude photos or vids. Other people will eventually see them.
    2)Never tattoo another person's name on your body.
    3)Never attempt to shave any body part in a moving vehicle, or one stopped for a traffic light.

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    • d0esnormalmatter

      Last one is very suspiciously specific

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      • fancypigeon

        To be fair, I've seen people, my mother included, shave while driving.

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        • d0esnormalmatter

          So what? Does that make it a good idea?

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          • fancypigeon

            Not at all. Just that you said it was oddly specific, and I was saying that enough people think it's a good idea so where it justifies being said.

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            • d0esnormalmatter

              So you don't think CosmoWank had a shaving accident?

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  • WeirdGuyFr0mTheSouth

    You snitched on your best friend. Not cool dude.

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    • RoseIsabella

      The best friend should not have shown him a nudie pic of his girl without her consent.

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      • FromTheSouthWeirdMan

        Are you serious? You kind of sound like a terrible friend. Of course the friend shouldnt do that but when your friends do things they shouldnt do you shouldnt go tell everyone. Especially the girl that sent it to him. That's not only being a snitch but a shit started. Most people dislike ppl like that because they cant be trusted EVER. He's the guy at the workplace that tells the boss when someone was late.

        And does disliking my posts make you feel good about yourself or something? Its kind of pathetic you dislike all the posts you dont agree with.

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    • megadriver

      While it's lame to show off your girlfriend's nudes, in my mind snitching is worse.

      By being "the white knight", or an asshole... you not only ruin 2 friendships, but you also ruin a relationship and possibly a couple more friendships on the side!

      Again, sharing nudes of girlfriends, or exes is wrong and personally, I would never do it, but snitches deserve a very serious beatdown.

      *Very serious for reasons unrelated to women.*

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      • WeirdGuyFr0mTheSouth

        Exactly man. Thats what I was saying. What he did was started a bunch of shit for no reason. Those kind of people have trouble in the workforce too because no one can trust them, not their bosses or their coworkers.

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  • Shiki

    I actually think it was good to tell her. It is uncomfortable when your bf just decides to show nudes of you? Wtf?
    What kind of bf is this?
    I honestly think it is worth a break-up. It is emberassing,humiliating and, dangerous.
    And of course awkward.
    It is ok to feel guilty, i think it will get less after while :/

    What if he keeps showing them to other, oof..

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  • PunkChangedTheWorld

    Now she needs to see you nude. I suggest a 3 way.

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  • lordofopinions

    You should have just kept quiet but the damage is done. Hopefully, things will go back to more or less normal.

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  • farkelu

    Yes, it's normal to feel guilty. No, it's not normal to throw your friend under the bus. Bonehead!

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  • bigbudchonga

    You were stupid to tell her he showed you them.

    He shouldn't have shown you them either, but now you're untrustworthy, and a bit of a snitch, in his eyes, and in her eyes you've invaded her privacy

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  • Bazinga

    1. He was dumb to show you the pic.
    2. You were dumb to feel guilty.
    3. You were extra dumb to tell her about it.

    Now, things would be better if you had just gone to your local nude beach for the afternoon. Play naked volleyball with all the boys and girls. Enjoy the higher awareness of body acceptance.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    I have never taken or affiliated with nudes and neve will and this is part of the reason why.

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  • rocketdave

    NO!

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