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I've dating this girl and she really wants sex, I'm going through a lot right now trying to find a job but she always wants to hang out at my place and have sex. I literally cannot get it up for her but she wants to hang out most nights of the week. Not sure what to do, this is only making me more stressed out.
Ppl have different sex drives so yea normal. Can't you think of any other way to satisfy her? Alot of guys would kill to have your problem.
Look, I get where you're coming from completely, I was in the same position. But honestly man, I've had two dismal experiences with sex and they were both hook ups. I have a bit of performance anxiety, so now that the opportunity has arisen it's been harder than I expected.
LOL... harder than you expected... I see what you did there.
But seriously maybe uh... talk to her? Maybe you need more foreplay. Maybe you can learn to get her off without your dick there are ways I know becos I can get a girl off and I don't have a dick.
Tell her what turns you on if shes as horny as you say she'll probly be happy to give it a try. There are so many ideas I can't begin to list them all.
Yes, just experiment with her... Ask her what she likes. spend time trying to please her and you will probably find yourself really turned on. Nothing hotter IMO than making someone else cum. Try eating her out till she comes then putting your dick right inside her (obvs ask her beforehand if that's cool hahah) but yeah, that is always super hot, right after a girl cums... because you can feel all the contractions.
Of course it's normal. Women have just as much of a sex drive as men. When I was a teenager I masturbated to porn literally every day and had pervy fantasies all the time. I found out all my female friends did too, but only years later. Women are made to feel ashamed of sex for no reason. But women can be totally just as horny as men. Sometimes in relationships they stop wanting to have sex with their BF for a long while. That doesn't mean they're not horny. It just means they're bored of their BF and want to fuck other dudes. But then again, we all go through short phases where we aren't horny.... maybe a month or so.... And sometimes her phase won't overlap with yours, so you feel like all she wants is sex. But it's totally normal
1) Tell her the anxiety of finding work is making it difficult for you to get it up. It's a fact. If she doesn't believe it then no amount of sex will make up for her stupidity.
2) offer dick-free satisfaction until you can sort yourself out. It seems to me that you have a priority problem. You should be seeking work first, THEN get a girlfriend. Don't get a girlfriend whilst you're single. It's just a distraction.
Just talk to her about it. Maybe she could get a sex toy or you could pleasure her with you hand or mouth.
Hope it works out. Although, usually couples with different sex drives don't. But if you care about each other deeply, you may be an exception.
If you can't get it up, give her oral. You have a high quality problem but also a good chance she will leave you.
Interesting chat this one... I think you just a low sex drive, I must have too, I get horny but not that often I guess, sometimes get really horny and want it but yeah, just explain to her your situation and yeah, hopefully she understands if not she may not be for you buddy :-(
something may have happened to this girl that makes her think there is some connection between sex and love and she wants love but is seeking sex. Be nice to her and make her happy and do not victimize her farther
Erectile dysfunction can be caused by stress or anxiety. (And it's becoming more and more of a modern day phenomenon because of the bad economy.)
Your problem probably stems from your job troubles.
Maybe you could stop trolling. In a previous question you admitted to being a virgin who can't get a girlfriend, and now you're in a relationship with a girl who wants to have sex all the time? I know you won't reply to this because you can't believe you could be so transparent.
The girl wanting sex more than the guy in a remarkably strong position for the guy to be in, relationship-wise. Access to sex is ultimately a woman's source of control, and (usually) they have better have more control due to a lower sex-drive.
Deny her as often as you want, and you'll be in great shape.